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My 3 year old is still awake and has taken off her PJs and made a loo roll/water paste to smear on the floor

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Rolf · 25/06/2008 22:43

What the hell can I do to make this child sleep? Every night she is like this - just won't settle to sleep. She wakes up her brothers (8 and 7) and arses around until eventually I lose my temper and only then (usually around this time of night) will she settle down and go to sleep.

We've put a stair gate on her doorway but she can get through it. It seems to make no difference whether she's had a nap during the day or not. We've brought her bedtime right back to try to make sure she's really tired - no good. We've brought it forward - no good. I put her back in her bed with no eye contact and no conversation - she gets up, I do it again until by the 20th time I either lose my temper or give up. Too tired to see it through to the 1000th time which I guess is what she neeeds.

She doesn't have blackout curtains but hopefully they are on the way to being ordered.

I reckon if we put a lock on the door she would settle into a sensible routine after a few nights - but I just can't bring myself to go through with it. I'd hate to be locked in a room and can't do it to her.

The household has descended into total anarchy. I have a new baby (10 days old) who is much, much easier than this (DD's sleep habits were like this before the baby arrived).

Any ideas?

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Triathlete · 25/06/2008 22:54

Hi

we don't have kids that age, so we don't know, but wanted to say that perhaps she feels threatened and upset by new baby. Perhaps she needs lots of extra attention and reassurance during the day.

Just my tuppence worth, might be all wrong. Feel for you and hope it gets better.

Rolf · 26/06/2008 17:26

thanks triathlete. She's been like this for ages - long before the baby arrived. But I don't want to give her a reason to feel jealous of the baby, iyswim, so want to find a fairly gentle way of resolving it.

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springerspaniel · 28/06/2008 20:28

I'm not being flippant but lose your temper earlier?

When I've had trouble with mine (he is nearly three) I threaten in my 'very serious voice' not to tuck him in and no kiss or cuddle. If he doesn't respond, I just shut his door and he sobs, shouting for a kiss/cuddle/tuck in. Leave him for two minutes with the occasional ('don't you dare...' when he comes to the door, which is followed by him more sobbing.) I then open the door, and in my 'very serious voice' tell him I will not come in unless he stops crying. If not, I go. When he does, I put on my 'nice mummy voice' (god I sound like a loony) and tuck him in nicely with kiss and quick cuddle.

I know you know this but most important thing is to be consistent.

Just to reassure you that I am not a sanctimonious (sp?) bitch, DH found me sobbing last Sunday morning at 6:30am after I'd tried to get DS back to bed for 45 minutes as I knew how tired he really was.

I gave it one last attempt - told him he didn't have to go to sleep but had to lie quietly and cuddle teddy and....then he went to sleep UNTIL NINE AM. THE FIRST TIME PAST 7.30AM FOR THREE YEARS (average is 6:30 probably for last year.)

Total fluke but was so overjoyed that DH and I did rude things in the morning for the first time in a loooooooooooooong time! (Apologies for TMI.)

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