9 month old sleeps fine in own room but not after bottle

[jackiesgirl]

First time Mum here, looking for advice.
We moved into a new house last week and put our 9mo in his own room for the first time. Night 1, he slept absolutely fine, he always wakes up for a bottle around 5am and goes straight back to sleep, this is normal for him.
Nights 2 and 3 we had to sleep on our mattress on the floor in his room because work was being done in our room, again he slept as he would normally.
Ever since, he sleeps absolutely fine for the first 8-9 hours he’s in bed, but after he’s had the 5am feed he goes back to sleep in our arms but then screams as soon as he’s back in his cot. We’ve tried putting him back down every time but that’s exhausting for us all. We’ve tried to eliminate the 5am feed altogether by giving him food or a bigger bottle before bed, that doesn’t work. It’s not that he’s awake and ready for the day because twice now we’ve put him in our bed and he goes back to sleep til 8ish which is his normal wake up time.
Can anyone help with making the second part of the night go as well as the first?

Can you feed him without lifting him out the cot?

Its too low down to reach down but suppose I could try between the bars

Night feeds are normal under 12 months. I wouldn't try and change anything, it's a massive change to move house for anyone including babies. Give the baby the support they need to adjust, being in their own room is a huge change.

Probably wind. Some can't be laid down right after feeding or they get stomach ache. Do you make sure he burps a few times after feeding him?

Yes, we’re not doing anything different to when he was in our room and used to go back down straight away. I’m just not sure why he’s happy to be left alone when he first goes to bed but not after the night feed.

Completely normal, possibly separation anxiety, much less sleep pressure at the 5am wake. Just cuddle in bed 5-8am.

Totally normal. His sleep pressure is highest at bedtime so he stays asleep. By 5am there is minimal sleep pressure so needs assistance to go back to sleep.

Anything after 5am I was fine with, but then we get up early for work anyway. Can’t you just bring him in your bed and all sleep?

Co sleeping is not recommended by the NHS due to SIDS risks. Better to avoid at 9 months.

It’s because sleep tends to be lighter later in the night when there’s less sleep pressure. He misses you more at that time as there is more awareness and he’s leas deeply asleep. Cutting out the bottle likely won’t help. Tbh I’d just go with it…

Oh don’t be ridiculous. Cosleeping following the lullaby trust recommendations is absolutely fine, at any age and at 9 months the risk of SIDS if you keep duvet and pillows away from baby is absolutely minuscule.

Entirely untrue. planned and safe cosleeping is the norm globally.

Is this the same Lullaby Trust who open their webpage on co-sleeping with a reminder that the safest place for a baby to be is on their back in their own cot or crib?

https://www.lullabytrust.org.uk/baby-safety/safer-sleep-information/co-sleeping/

The risks are higher for co-sleeping. You can argue that til you're blue in the face, but it won't change the facts.

However everyone has their own tolerances for risk and if you're alright with that, then that's your decision.