8 month not sleeping

[Anonymous68]

Okay I need help from the internet 🫠. Since birth we’ve been co sleeping and feeding to sleep and that worked great for the first 4 month. But every month since sleep has been getting worse. Now he is waking every hour to 2 hours and waking up crying, trying to roll, sitting up and flopping back to sleep or needing boob to go back to sleep. I am on constant rotation left to right boob in the night.
I Want to sleep train and get him sleeping in his space and falling to sleep independently. I can get him to sleep on the boob and transfer to his cot b it he will wake after an hour screaming. I’m doing this for day time naps though.

ive split with my partner and am living with my parents (sharing same room as my baby with a travel cot) so I don’t feel like I can do cry it out because it will disturb their sleep and they’re working full time still. They can’t hear the crying at the moment but I don’t let him cry for long before putting him on the boob again.

he won’t take a bottle or dummy. Always gags and spits it out or just chews on the bottle. I’ve tried multiple brands. He also won’t have solids, he just spits it out. So I am literally tied to him all the time.

im juggling a break up, trying to buy a place on my own, working self employed in nap breaks and not sleeping. It’s too much now

Ok, I think you need to break it down and tackle one thing at a time. He may sleep better once he’s reliably eating solids so I’d be tackling that first of all. Have you tried both BLW and pureee methods? He might need more food at this point in his tummy to sleep better at night. He may be teething. Definitely don’t do CIO or similar. Would be way too harsh to transition from boob to sleep every time to that sort of thing. I think there are gentle methods, I haven’t read it but some people recommend the No Cry Sleep Solution.

I would also experiment with calpol before bed just to rule out it being an intolerance or teething or other pain causing it.

With my own DD at that age, it was a rough age for sleep but seemed to naturally improve by itself so it is possible that it’s a phase too.

Thanks for this. Yes I have tried both methods of weaning but he hasn’t learnt to chew or swallow he just gets annoyed when it’s on his tounge and sits there with it on his tounge with his tounge out and cries 😂🫠. Have also tried calpol last few nights as he is biting everything including my nipples and it doesn’t seem to have made any difference to be honest. I’m trying to tell myself it’s just a phase but I’m exhausted

8 months is really tough for sleep, there is so much developmentally going on it just throws everything out of whack. Give it another month or two and I think you'll see an improvement.

What's his usual wake / naps / bedtime? Might need to reduce day sleep, sounds like he's not tired enough for the night.