Has anyone successfully tried cot transfers again past 12 months?!

[AlIie]

Just wondering if anyone has ever achieved success at getting cot refusers in the cot eventually?!

DD is 15 months now and we were never able to get her in the cot when younger so I think we gave up trying at around 9 months.

We still co-sleep now as she wants breast milk every couple of hours overnight. No signs of self-weaning so maybe the answer is just to keep going with bedsharing.

But I was just curious - has anyone ever managed a successful transfer with a baby who previously woke up for all transfers?!

Hace you tried a floor bed? You could then feed DD lying on the bed, and then roll away and leave - they are then in their own room and you can then decide if you wean or continue to feed them each time they wake up over night, but it happens in their own bed? Would avoid the need for a transfer each time and you could try and build to you leaving them when they are drowsy or awake to speed up getting back to your own bed each night.

We weren't able to transfer my now 2 year old without him waking up, so we did sleep train him. Or if we did manage it, he woke up crying after one sleep cycle. Controversial but we did CIO for going to bed around 8 months and it worked within 2 nights with less than 10 minutes of crying each night. And then around 10 months when it was clear DS did not need a night feed, we let him cry for 10 minutes when he woke up. After 1 night, he started sleeping through the night and has a water bottle if needed.

At 15 months your DD should be breastfeeding at night purely for comfort and not from hunger as she should be getting all her calories during the day - obviously each to their own, but if she is showing no signs of night weaning herself, you could always gently push towards it without feeling guilty she will be hungry etc

I would also add I'm currently up feeding my newborn, but getting my DS sleeping in his own room/weaned was one of the best things that happened to me as a parent - a good night's sleep and an evening with my DH has been transformative and I hadn't realised how 8 months of broken sleep had affected me. Aware this is completely unsolicited advise but I needed a push to sleep train/wean - feel free to ignore and tell me to shut up but just incase you need a push here it is!

so much easier to get a floor bed; it’ll be an easier transition from cosleeping. I reduced night feeds by getting my husband to go to her if it’s before 3am, then I’ll feed if it’s after that. (Also 15 month old). And then I usually just fall asleep with her in her floor bed til morning. Since doing this, she often sleeps from bedtime til 3/4am which is a big improvement. Maybe as she knows there won’t be any milk til then!!

This is very interesting! I have just been reading about floor beds and think this might be the way to go!

what do your evenings look like @Peonies12? And what size bed did you go for?

Thank you @lmjmg too! I do think we need to start making some tweaks now. I haven’t slept longer than 2.5 hours in about a year.

We have a normal single as that's what will fit in her room. We do dinner 5.45/6pm, then bath, dressed, breastfeed, books, and then usually she will fall asleep independently (with one of us sitting next to the bed) between 7.15-7.30pm. Recently she has been sleeping til about 3am, at that point I'll go and BF / co-sleep the rest of the night with her. If she wakes before that, my husband will go to her and get her back to sleep with cuddles/pats. I think it's helped as she now falls asleep in the bed rather than being transferred. She also has a pillow which she loves.