Toddler waking same time at nights! Loosing it

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Hi

my son is 3 in 3 weeks. For past say 6/8 months has been an ok sleeper, occasionally waking when poorly etc but generally sleeping. Since before Xmas he started waking at 4.30am every night.

it is now around 1-2am and 4.30am. He is not cold. We have heating that comes on if temp drops. It seems to be habit and I don’t know how to stop
it.

we recently dropped to 0 naps because of the wakings but nO improvement. He literally screams and kicks/bangs his legs on the cot bed ti make so much noise to wake us. But he isn’t crying he is just doing it so I go in. I tried leaving him and he then goes quiet then goes again even louder. Problem is my partner works at 4an so is up at 3am so I can’t leave him to break the habit otherwise wakes partner up. Currently I go in and hold him til he goes back to sleep. Previously he would find a dummy in his cot and go back to sleep

No advice just wanted to post in solidarity as my toddler is doing the exact same x

Have you asked your HV for advice? Could your partner be disturbing him? Has he only just stopped using a dummy and can’t self soothe? Moving forward you could try a wake up clock to indicate when it’s OK to be up. Once in a bed rather than cot bed there’d be nothing to kick. That could be a fresh start.
For now I’d be tempted to just let him come to you for a cuddle if your partner is up to break the kicking and shouting cycle.

We are the exact same!! The cot banging! Tried in a low floor bed and just escaped and caused havoc!

Thanks for the replies.
I have one of those gro clock things which I will try, it’s still in the box
yes he is still in a toddler bed, he hasn’t tried escaping it yet. I know full well if he has a bed he will get out and get in my bed. And I really don’t want him in my bed. He moves so much wriggles etc it means I have a bad night again.
I don’t think my partner wakes him as it’s often before he wakes up my son wakes and bangs. Because my partner works so early I run in my sons room so he doesn’t disturb my partners little sleep so he knows I will come in his room. It’s just screaming and kicking the cot sides which vibrate and make such a bang but he isn’t crying.
will continue with the no nap and I’m hoping it’s a regression he grows out of. Thanks all

What time is bedtime? My son was soooo tired when he dropped to no nap that he started waking again through the night. Could do a few naps a week rather than none? Or move bedtime earlier while he's getting used to no nap?