Standing up in cot

[GreenDogDot]

Hello,

I’d really appreciate some advice/experiences on how to handle an 11 month old who stands up and cries whenever they’re put down in the cot.

Sleep has always been difficult for us but a few weeks ago we could cuddle for a minute, put her down awake and leave the room. Now it doesn’t matter if she’s put down awake or swayed for 15 minutes until she’s snoring, the second she touches the mattress, she’s rolling over and standing up to bang the bars and cry.

She has a lot going on at the moment with horrible teething pain, almost constant colds and separation anxiety from me so I’m not expecting her to sleep well just interested in the best way to react to the standing up. I’ve tried instantly picking her up and re-cuddling her to sleep (my back gave in before she did), standing by the cot and instantly lying her back down without comment or eye contact (made her even more manic) and putting her down and quickly leaving the room (sometimes she’ll stand up and just look around, see what she can reach for a while but it always turns to tears eventually). I suspect i need to pick one tactic and be consistent but I don’t know which one! I’m not looking to do any CIO training.

so put her cot sheet around you today under your top and put her down feet first, head first initiates the reflex and instantly wakes them.
tonight sleep with her cot sheet under your pillow and swap it out every night. The smell of you will help the separation anxiety.

really hope this helps- also a tired Mama who’s tried everything! This has helped a lot.

Get a floor bed - so much easier to settle lying next to them, and no transfer !

I wouldn’t sit her back down, just comfort if she cries. So as you pick a method and stick with it. She will soon get tired of standing up once the novelty wares off.

Not sure this is what you'll want to hear, but after months of battling through this, back breaking rocking and walking, sitting on the floor beside the cot for hours, falling asleep leaning on the cot bars, we gave up and started putting him into the spare double bed with one parent. We swapped each night. He still mucked about and woke up but at least we were lying down dozing, and the adult pretending to go to sleep (or often really going to sleep!) helped a lot with persuading him it was sleep time.
Didn't last forever, I think we did this from months 9-18, then slept alone fine in toddler bed, (no way would he accept a cot after that), months 23-28 in with parent again, slept alone fine in own bed again after that.
No idea why I was so desperate not to cosleep initially to be honest. Younger child is been in with us from birth until 23 months and counting, so scarred from the sleep deprivation of eldest's horrendous sleep was I!