Argh with id never started bf

[Beautifulsiro56]

Trying to stop breastfeeding my 14momth old in rhe middle 9f the night. Instesd she cries for 4 hours literally until I give in.
Hate my life why did I ever start bf

The middle of the night is the hardest feed to stop. Is there something else she will have instea? Mine would have an Ella’s pouch

We used to keep an emergency banana upstairs when stopping breastfeeding. Most of the time they just want comfort but sometimes they are hungry. Do you have a partner who can alternate nights with you so she can scream at someone else for a bit? X

Could you have your little one spend the weekend with grandparents or aunt?

I also have a breastfed 14mo. He breastfeeds 3x a night at the moment and wakes about 3x times more when DH gets him. It's absolutely killing us both and I'm desperate to stop the night feeds. I don't really breastfeeding anyway, that being said I don't want to completely stop yet but I do HATE the night feeds. Similar to you though if I don't breastfeed him after about 3hrs or so he will just scream for HOURS. Or he will settle with DH and fall asleep but then wake up immediately on transfer to bed and repeat this every 20-30 minutes and it's a nightmare. He eats very little solid food yet so I think he probably is genuinely hungry.

The people I know irl who night weaned all did it by getting dad to sort every wake out for a few days but they do all admit it was a lot of crying. I was looking at Dr Jay Gordon's method to try as it's more gentle but I still think it will involve a lot of screaming. I have two older children who would be disturbed by the noise so it's putting me off. But me and DH are both running on empty after all this time of severe sleep deprivation.

Sending you solidarity if nothing else!

Have you cut back or stopped in the day first? Much easier for you and the child to try and stop day feeds first, then they will be more used to it when you say no at night. Are you offering water and / or a snack? And gradually reducing the feeds rather than just stopping altogether? It’s a big adjustment both in terms of comfort and hydration/hunger. I also have 14 MO, Im working on cutting down now - ive started with day feeds first; Im sticking to a morning and bedtime feed only; and my husband settles her if she wakes before 2am.