DD won’t sleep in cot or without us

[SoloAnakin]

DD is 19 months and has all of a sudden stopped sleeping in her cot at night. She’s typically been a good sleeping since we moved her to her own room/cot at 6ish months. For about a month now she has barely slept in her cot which means she’s slept with us and that means we get minimal sleep which isn’t healthy for anyone.

bedtime routine has been the same for a while. We’re not strict with it but time and process is usually the same. 7pm wash, change relax in room by 7.30 read a book, turn night light on rock to sleep, 7:45-8pm sleeping.

Now she could be dead asleep on us and the minute we move to put her down she wakes up, knows what we’re doing and cries till we pick her up to which she falls asleep again straight away.

Need some advice as me and my wife are so lost. The lack of sleep is affecting us both!

At 19 months I would be sleep training.

DD did this when she was about a year old, woke up every time we transferred her to her cot. We ended up replacing the cot with a single bed (with a barrier) so we could get in with her. It was less of a transition when we sneaked away and worked well for us.

If we're staying away from home we take a barrier, usually she'll be in the double bed with one of us (barrier on her side), the other parent sleeps elsewhere.

My son was like this. He's 18 now and at university - this will pass! I ended up buying a single bed and toddler bed guard at almost 2 and lying down with him until he was asleep after some stories and bedtime routine. It wasn't as jarring moving myself as moving him.

It's separation anxiety and I would keep putting her back in the cot. It will pass but it might not pass as quickly as you'd like.

God no, made up Western bollocks, designed to extract money from tired parents in more ways than you think. Awful.

Following OP and sending solidarity - i have a 20month old who is in exactly the same situation. She recently had a bit of an explosion in words as well as two new teeth appear. Im hoping this was contributing and that we might be able to go back to the cot now? We've put a cot in our room and having some success in getting her to sleep in our bed, then when in a deep sleep transferring her to the cot. Then whenever the first wake is, we see if she gets back to sleep herself or if not we just move her from the cot to our bed. But when the cot is in her room she wakes before midnight whereas when its in our room she often manages until 2 or 3am, which helps us all get a longer stretch before the bedhopping starts.

No advice but same with 14 month who if they wake in the night and I rock them back to sleep wakes up the moment I put them in the cot but is fine in our bed. I don’t know how to solve it!

Mine is older (2.5) but she had slept through since 1 then suddenly seemed to started having nightmares and gradually wouldn't sleep on her cot at all. Changing to a toddler bed with bed guard seems to have made all the difference, no idea why but I'm so happy to have now had a week off full sleep again

Floorbed! Dd stopped letting me transfer her to the cot at around 12 months so we switched to a floorbed at 13 months. Game changer! We just lie with her, until she falls asleep, and then roll away.

@Justlostmybagel which size would you recommend? Did you get the one with the little wooden railing?

@AmarylIis We put the double mattress from our guestroom on the floor in her bedroom. Just to test it out before we committed to the floorbed.

We're planning on getting a frame with the little wooden railing after Christmas! She's only rolled off once and she stayed asleep somehow and slept on the rug for a few hours lol.

Get a floor bed, really helped with settling our 15
month old.