How do I get my dd aged 22 months to stay in bed and go to sleep

[Trix11]

We have decided to put her into a bed as she was screaming when put into the cot. She is a lot happier getting into bed but the minute I have left the room she is up and out the door with teddy tucked under her arm. If one of us lie down with her she will eventually fall asleep but its a habit I dont really want to get into.

Any ideas please - would be much appreciated. Thanks.

Just keep taking her back. They do eventually get it

I will start to do this but imagine it will take literally hours the first few nights - oh the joys of parenthood.

Has anyone else done this and what was the outcome?

We usually stay with her, stroking hair or holding her hands etc til she is nearly asleep. I tell her I am going to go downstairs in a minute but I will stay for a bit. I say 'night night' and she sometimes says 'stay' so I say I'll stay for a minute and then I am going downstairs, I then stay for 30 secs or so and say night night, love you. And she is fine.

We have done the whole insistent time for bed and just putting her back (there has to be a consistent message I think - although I don't do hysterical crying before bed) and tbh it's nicer to just stay with her for a bit... We put dd in her bed at 15mths - she rarely gets out now at 26mths. Occasionally, if she really isn't tired, she takes a bit longer to settle. And we had random tantrum craziness for a couple of nights two weeks ago but generally she stays in bed and calls for us (even though the whole point was to minimise me having to get out of bed )

A thought: if the bed is new, she might just need to learn that you stay in it. You could do games during the day and put teddies to sleep - oh look teddies still in bed, good teddy, night night and go downstairs.

Thats a good idea with the teddy, will try that. As nice as it is to lie with her until she goes to sleep, its not really practical as we have a newborn and a child at school who has homework to do in the evenings.

Oh gosh, have no idea what will happen when our newborn arrives!! (6 weeks... expect it will all change) but agree, you can't lie with her forever. We tend to have a compromise of 'i'll stay for a bit' and have left her wide awake before now and she has gone off to sleep (she never did it in her cot...).

I am only talking 5 mins staying with her as she gets sleepy btw.

you just have to keep on and on putting them back

we shut the door when she was really annoying

she screamed for a bit then dutifully troops off to bed