1 year old still wakes 5+ Times a night. Sick of it and her.

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1 year old still wakes 5+ Times a night. Sick of it and her.
Sleep training doesnt work.aa just gets hysterical and cries herself awake because she gets sooo angry
So so done. So.aleep depeived

Would you consider bedsharing (following the Safe 7?)

Can you describe the sleep set up and routine a bit more? How many months is she?

I started calling in at 11 with a dream feed and change if required. If they woke in the night, all in low light very very quietly even when crying very calm And putting them back into the cot and rubbing their back. It was making sure that they understood at night time was just a very calm quiet time and it did work

All 4 of mine still woke up lots at 1, but I think things got a lot easier by 18 months. Never left any to cry, they all got there. Hope things improve for you soon

really sorry op. My DC2 has just turned 2 and she is also a demon at night. Gentle sleep training hasn’t worked. We actually have a HV coming round next week to discuss as it’s had such a detrimental impact to our whole family as we’re so exhausted. When she gets over some colds and teething i’m thinking of resorting to the furber method tbh.

I would as a start, contact your HV team as they should have a specific sleep team who can come and visit you.

Controlled crying. It will test you and feel like it isn’t working - from my experience with 3 children. Then by the 3rd to 5th night it was like a light bulb moment and they slept. If they got ill or were teething I’d obviously soothe them and lift them out of their cots, but then once they were better I’d find I’d be back to square one and start the process again. I’ll probably get beaten down for saying this. HV told me to try it as I was going insane with no sleep and constant morning sickness/nausea.

Same here. Multiple wake ups for all of them until 18 months/ 2 years and then a sudden change. It is so so hard when you’re in the thick of it though. I think people underestimate what being woken every hour or so through the night does to you.

Is she still in a cot/sleeping bag? Could she be too hot or cold for her own preferences (not what the guidelines say)?
I moved my awful-sleeper DC1 to a floor bed with a duvet at just over a year old (cotbed mattress on the floor, single duvet turned sideways and tucked under the mattress each side to stop her rolling out/kicking the covers off). It was part of a shift to a Montessori-style bedroom rather than with the hope of improving her sleep, but the first night in the new set up, she STTN for the first time ever after waking every hour or two throughout her 14m before that. After that we had some night waking some nights, but nowhere near like it had been. It turns out she hated being restricted and hot in the Gro Bags - she likes to starfish and stick a leg out to regulate her temperature. She's 11yo now and still sleeps like this.
We camp regularly through the Spring & Summer, and she still hates sleeping bags 😂 The compromise is an adult Pod bag, so she can starfish, scrunch into a ball etc however she likes.

Just bed share.

No stress for anyone. No upset. No sleep deprived rage. And every one of mine graduated to their rooms when they were ready.

Hand hold. It’s very, very hard. People forget how hard it is when they’re no longer in the thick of it.
Not going to give any advice as you haven’t asked for it but just wanted to send solidarity. We were in the same position with our third earlier this year.

My little boy will be 2 next month. Still a horrendous sleeper, after a very good settled newborn phase. We average 4-7 times a night and normally spend from 3/4am safe co sleeping with him. We too are going to speak to the hv next month

Same as @Natowl and @Eenameenadeeka mine was nearly 2, one night he woke up every two hours as he had done his whole life, the next night he slept through. And now does far more often than not. Nothing changed, he just grew out of it. I’m not minimising, it’s rubbish when you’re in the middle of it. But it usually does get better

Co-sleep. It doesn't last forever. My 3 year old now will start off in his own bed, and wakes once in the night to come into our bed. We are happy with this arrangement and it's obviously improved as we used to co-sleep the whole night. My husband was apparently the same and needed to co-sleep when he was young, so we figured it wouldn't harm. They all eventually get their independence!

Mine both had warm milk bottles in night until about 2.
By 18 months I gave them bottle and left them. They would drink it and go back to sleep. Check

if she’s cold and / or hungry

My DD was the same until around 15 months when she FINALLY started sleeping through, only waking when teething. For the first time EVER I could put her down at 7 and she would stay asleep until 7 the next morning. Thing is I didn’t actually do anything different I was like you and tried anything and everything to get her to sleep never worked. If it’s any help I think her sleep started when I started doing self soothing - not cry it out, I would give her a bottle, put her down with her teddy and she eventually learned to self settle. The other reason I think because she then started walking and burned more energy maybe? She only had one nap a day, usually 11-1.

Solidarity. I hated motherhood until she and I could sleep. My husband did the sleep training as he could pat her to sleep and not distract (trainer said that because I was BFing I would smell of milk which would distract from sleep). We always say it was life changing once she slept. But I will never forget how miserable and tired I was. And how guilty I felt for feeling like that. Wishing you luck and rest.

We've switched to a single floor bed with duvet and pillow at 14 months, it seems to be helping, and one of us can join her in the night.

Hope you're ok and don't worry if certain solutions don't work. Co-sleeping did not work with my second - she either gets really frustrated and starts hitting, or thinks it's playtime!!! My second is 16 months and still waking 3 times a night, but we are making progress....