5 year old & 2 year old - help me

[Johnson10]

Please throw some suggestions & ideas for me. Im so drained & exhausted. I don’t think I can mentally deal with it for much longer.
So both my children wake in the night, every night. They always want to come in my bed. They wake each other up with the shouting ect.
On top of that bedtimes are hell on earth. My 2 year old cry’s on for ages if you don’t hold his hand while he falls asleep, meanwhile my 5yr old whinges the whole time as he hates his bed apparently & only wants to sleep in mine. When my husband is home we have a child each we sit with while they fall asleep, not ideal but it does take the edge off slightly. When I’m on my own - good god it’s torture.

I’ve tried reward charts, stickers, the tonie box for soft music or stories. They both got various nightlights in their bedrooms. We have a chill out before bed so teeth then read books. I totally get they’re still little & would expect this to some extent but it’s gone too far every night now.

please any suggestions welcome 🙏

Have you considered them sharing a room together for company?

Your 5 year old is old enough to know not to shout and to go and find you instead, sort that and at least he won’t wake his brother. My dd struggles with bed time and we got her a yoto which she listens to once we’ve said goodnight, would that help him maybe?

I have no idea why there’s a cat gif, or how to get rid of it.

Haha the cat gif
I know, the shouting drives me mad. Occasionally he will get out of bed & come in to our room. If he was shouting for a genuine reason I wouldn’t mind. They have a tonie which they listen to at bedtime as part of a wind down. I’ve tried putting it on with chilled music or stories. Hasn’t really helped.

This has been discussed. I worry they will mess on rather then go to sleep. But it is an option.

Get the Ferber sleep training book and reclaim your evenings and nights.