10 month old has never slept in cot

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My 10.5 month old has never slept in his cot. I am at a point now where I would like him to sleep in there, but I don’t know how to start.

He slept in a next to me bassinet for the first 4 months, since then he has slept in our bed. He is breastfed and has always been fed to sleep. About a month ago I started sleeping on a mattress on the floor in his room thinking I could get him to sleep in the cot that way but I’ve ended up just feeding him to sleep on the mattress and then staying there all night with him. When I’ve tried to put him in the cot he screams so much he makes himself sick, even with me in the room with him. If I put him down asleep he will wake up without fail and scream. He’s not just whining, it’s full snot tears, red face, choking until I pick him up.

what can I do?

My daughter was like this. I'm a solo parent so in the end we coslept until she stopped having night feeds. When she outgrew the next to me crib (she could wriggle into the main bed long before she was supposed to be able to move) I put her cot next to my bed with the side off to provide a bit more space.

She fed to sleep and I could never transfer her. Putting down sleepy but awake never worked. I tried the gentlest form of sleep training and lasted about two minutes. She has been an excellent sleeper since she was two and bedtime is like a dream these days!

Get a floor bed in his room, you don't need to use the cot. You can settle him then move away. And you can always stay with him during the night if easier.

I did what @Peonies12 has suggested above.
I would settle them, when they were asleep I'd move away. If they woke in the night I'd go back in, sometimes I'd stay all night. But this got less and less until they were sleeping through. As they got older I'd introduced the milk in a cup before bed as well.
I never forced it, it felt very natural to me. Both stopped feeding by 1.5 so then I would just lie with them (or my DH who could get more involved at this point). I still do this with my 3yo, my 4yo has started being able to do it by herself sometimes. It's all very calm and not much stress, bedtime has never been a battle.