Screaming like the devil

[Sleepyhead2030]

My 13month old has never slept through the night. He refuses a bottle has done since birth and would rather starve then drink any sort of milk from a bottle. Again refuses a dummy for comfort and only wants to be breastfeed. He screams and sobs for a least 3hours a night. He goes down fine but after 4hours ups kicking off. Weve tried everything.

Weve tried
Pick up put down
Letting him cry it out
Leaving the room slowly

He will cry for hours unless hes in your arms.

Help?

Sippy cup with milk? Water in cup or bottle? Rocking him? White noise? Habit stacking some other routine with the breast?

You “your arms” not “my arms” so will he go to sleep with your partner?

Can you co sleep for a bit? I’d be taking the path of least resistance.

He settles in anyones arms after a feed bit then won't settle in the cot. As soon as you even attempt no matter how hes been asleep in arms.

We do white noise and have always had a good bedtime routine. He goes to bed perfectly...then is up 3/4 hours and thats when the crying starts

This is the plan for the next week just for our sanity 🤢😭

At that age i co slept with DC 1. Fed to sleep and rolled away for me time in the evening and then went back through at first wake up and slept with them in their floor bed. They are almost 3 and sleep through the night more and more often. Its gets better i promise!

I’ve got two ‘bad’ sleepers and a dummy/bottle refuser - but when I look in to it it’s just normal baby so I do understand the tiredness and being touched out…it sounds like he’s just doing his best to communicate to you that he needs you.

id personally look at sleep pressure - that he’s definitely tired enough, oral ties and any mouth breathing and any potential intolerances. If you think everything is normal and fine it can help to look at it with a different perspective. Why should he sleep alone in a cot and with a developing brain that doesn’t understand why? can you get a floorbed and build his confidence of sleeping that way and then move away from it once established.

Sometimes it’s just asking too much. He’s a baby it’s not biologically normal for all babies to ‘sleep through’ some need more help than others. By sleeping with him and comforting him you’ll literally be building his brain for the better and you will feel way more rested

I'd get a floor bed and take turns to co-sleep with him, assuming you have a partner. My 13 month old has never slept through the night but I never expected it? Adults wake during the night, why shouldn't babies. I would look at sleep pressure, do naps need to be reduced / moved earlier in the day? Mine is just transitioning to 1 nap some days. Plenty of fresh air, daylight (I know hard in winter!) and activity.

Hi everyone!

So I don't necessarily expect him to sleep the night....most breastfeed babies don't apparently. But its the screaming and sobbing. Weve been co sleeping which worked for a few weeks but now doesn't settle with us and is awake for hours throughout the night. Weve tried different nap lengths, no nap and more naps. He just screams.

My health visitor suggested given him a jacket potato before bed.....weve given him supper but he still wakes uo screaming multiple times.