4 months sleep regression never left, it’s now month 19

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She used to sleep through the night from around 2 months until 4. A good 7-8 no waking.

Then the 4 minute regression came and never left. Any research shows a new regression or the tail end of an old one. I just think it’s one long thing.

When does it end?

She wakes up like a newborn and wants feeding to sleep. The deep deep sleep only seems to happen at nap time. During the night she is twitchy

My eldest consistently slept through by around 3.5 years and I think my current 2 yo still can’t sleep all night. It just takes some children a long time.

Night weaning will probably help a bit.

I had one like this. Slept through once they were 3.5-4 years. It did improve once they were 2-2.5. They didn’t need fed to sleep anymore and just resettling. Less frequently too.

It's a bit misleading to call it a regression, as it's caused by a permanent change to your baby's sleep cycles. They start having lighter sleep instead of basically just awake/asleep. They therefore have to learn how to link sleep cycles. If they are going to sleep with support e.g. feeding, rocking, patting, they can wake looking for that again. Do you feed to sleep at the start of the night?

Saying that, mine were able to get themselves to sleep at bedtime but would still wake for feeds in the night. They slept through when I nightweaned at around 1yr but I know that doesn't work for everyone. Sending solidarity, as it's tough!

She will feed to go to sleep but some times she doesn’t want to feed and will long it out and then basically go to sleep when she is exhausted.

Yesterday she didn’t sleep until 1.20 am, she kept waking up all night before finally getting up at 9.30 for the day.

My LO is nearly 18 months and is identical to what you have described.
I have tried everything and questioned everything I’m doing.
I have slowly started to drop feeds and it’s slightly helping get more long stretches at night but then we’re back teething again and it’s the only comfort that will settle her so all progress out the window.
Not feeding to sleep at the beginning of the night help for us didn’t help, She will have a feed then roll around for 20 mins and go to sleep on her own no assistance from me really and she will still wake every 3-4 hours sometimes 2. I think teething is a huge issue for my LO and she uses boob like a dummy at night
sorry I’m no help just support to say your doing nothing wrong!

Glad to see I’m not alone! It is teething and then regressions but no ease up.

Im always looking for like different answers to why it’s so bad but it’s genuinely as you’ve said…. Regressions and teething.
Then a breast fed baby looks to you for that comfort it’s so so so difficult and makes you question everything doesn’t it :(

I read an article yesterday about night weaning and they don’t actually recommend even starting night weaning until 18 months as they are more mature emotionally and developmentally and they do still benefit from the calories at night I’ll try find the article for you. So I think once you have got through a tougher spell then maybe just try and drop one feed, that’s what I started to do and it did help slightly. Anything is better than nothing isn’t it x

I had 3 hours sleep last night and on shift tomorrow at 4am…hope for a better day and a better sleep tonight :(
Hope that makes you feel a little less lonely in this hard hard time x