I cant do this anymore!

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3 year old & sleep

I literally cannot do this anymore

My 4 year old has AUDHD & my 3 year old doesnt sleep, he has ectopic eczema & an absolutely insane separation issue when it comes to sleep and his dad, he cannot self soothe what so ever.

If I go anywhere near him, hes room etc he goes mental he does not respond at all, even if I offered him his favourite thing.

If we leave him to cry it out, he will shred his skin - despite strong steroids, melatonin, antihistamine and anti itch skin barriers.
He itches when hes upset, but it will literally become infected and so it gets worse!

We paid for a sleep specialist when he a baby, because again, he never slept well. For example, hes only slept 2 consecutive nights through since birth and he is 4 in may.

He wakes minimum 3 times a night, and throughout even with his dad there but is easier to settle with his dad there, he struggles to keep still and find comfort, again since birth.

He walks into things, stares off into space all the time during the day and starts school in September, how he will be ready for this I dont know. Hes very small for his age, he hasnt grown since he was 2, my 4 year old is massive next to him and he is just under average.

We have tried bribing, sticker charts, presents, me going in etc & half the time I end up on my shitty sofa & dad works 4am - 6pm!!!!

I honestly dont know what the fuck to do!?

Poor you and poor kid, the itching must drive him mad.

A few ideas, sorry if you have already thought of or tried these

assessment for ND for him too

deferring school as a summer born so he starts reception a year later - I would really consider this if you possibly can

allergy testing - especially as he isn’t growing properly. I wonder if there is an allergy/serious intolerance going on that would cause both the eczema and the lack of growth (due to not absorbing nutrients). Ask the GP to refer to allergy clinic

melatonin - I see you have tried this, might be worth trying other typed, we have found quite a big difference between brands/types (liquid much better than gummies in our case)

weighted blanket or weighted toy, maybe get it to smell of your DH

Eye test

You must all be exhausted, I hope you find something that helps soon.

Oh sweetie. Tacrolimus 0.1%
Ceterizine
Melantonin 4mg
That's all I can offer right now xx

Thank you, I requested Tacrolimus and they didnt want to give it to me, ive requested dupixent & my appt is next week, security can drag me out as im not leaving without it 😂 we are now on our 4th care plan with dermatology, next week will be lur 5th!

Have you had a social services assessment, or have you only been desling with your GP/dermatologist?

Have you tried the happy skin clothing. They worked well for my little one. (Sorry I don’t have any other advice. Sending hugs) ♥️

Hi,

My sister use to be the exact same and we found an eczema clothing remedy. They're called Happyskin and ship across the UK. One thing I advise heavily on is to stop using paraffin based creams and washing your little one in any heavy body wash. Try sanex 0% as an alternative to wash. You'll have to get rid of all the paraffin/oils/parabens that have been situated on your kids skin through a week of gentle cleansing. Then dress him in HappySkin clothing. So many mums have used Happyskin and have had a massive turn around from it, especially when it comes to sleeping!

Hope this helps!

I highly recommend them too! Worked wonders for my sisters eczema.

We already have this sadly nothing works BUT we had an appointment today & hes being put on an immuno suppressant as he just does not respond to anything