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1YO won’t sleep in own bed.

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buddygirlnemo · 19/10/2025 00:26

Hi, im just hoping for a little bit of advice because my 1YO will not go to sleep on a night!

My daughter is 14 months old, she has never been a ‘good’ sleeper but that’s fine ive never expected her to sleep through the night.. She used to have her bed time bottle, go into her cot and sleep for a few hours before waking up for a cuddle/feed and put back down in her cot where she would do the second part of the night.

Since turning 1, she won’t go into her cot at all!
She has a bottle before bed, gets put down asleep and within half an hour (if im lucky) she is crying, then that’s her for the night.. the rest of the night she won’t go in her bed at all and if i try she screams the house down.

It’s not even like she sleeps if she is in bed with me, she falls asleep but she tosses and turns so much that she wakes herself and me up every single time. Last night she was awake every half an hour whinging, it’s just getting to the point where im exhausted… im back at work and the lack of sleep is really hitting me!

On average she has two naps a day.
Her first nap is mid morning and she has maximum of half an hour and her second nap is mid afternoon and this can last anything upto 1 hour.. she doesn’t go in her cot to nap and will only contact nap for me. (funnily enough she will sleep on the sofa if her dad gets her to sleep and sits next to her but he works a lot so it’s rare he is home to do her naps).

I don’t know how to get her to want to go back into her own cot, she’s still in the same room as me, she’s not cold and the room isn’t cold but right now her cot is decoration!

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JustMe2026 · 19/10/2025 00:32

None of ours apart from first went in a cot they hated them, instead we made a bed on the floor in there room and at about 1 and a half got them all low single beds and never looked back our youngest 3 are now 2 and 3..it only took a couple of nights of consistently putting them back and then that was it. Same as yours they all go to bed with a cup of milk and favourite teddy, no lights or noises other than landing light until we go to bed or our teenagers want it off lol

Koolkoala · 19/10/2025 00:41

JustMe2026 · 19/10/2025 00:32

None of ours apart from first went in a cot they hated them, instead we made a bed on the floor in there room and at about 1 and a half got them all low single beds and never looked back our youngest 3 are now 2 and 3..it only took a couple of nights of consistently putting them back and then that was it. Same as yours they all go to bed with a cup of milk and favourite teddy, no lights or noises other than landing light until we go to bed or our teenagers want it off lol

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Same! Mine all think the cot is a cage. Co-slept til about one, then moved to a low small double bed.

BluntPlumHam · 19/10/2025 00:46

This is normal OP. They do this for a while and then settle down and it will be distant memory. Just hold on there. It’s awful when you’re back at work because actually, developmentally the year 1 is challenging quite a bit.

Just safely co sleep and let her learn how to sleep. Remember they’re learning too, it’s all new to them and so much is changing.

Change your mindset and stop thinking something is wrong but rather this is phase and you have to be patient and loving towards her.

buddygirlnemo · 19/10/2025 00:55

Thank you all, i didn’t expect replies so soon!

@JustMe2026 this is such a good idea, ive never considered doing that but im going to have a little look at low single beds for her.. thank you!

@Koolkoala to be honest id find them like a cage too haha!

@BluntPlumHam thank you, it’s difficult when you’re in the moment isn’t it! I’ve always loved how she wants to contact nap and that she loves cuddles because my eldest never did, my eldest slept through as soon as she stopped her night time bottle and only wants a cuddle at night if she’s poorly, so it’s nice my second wants me so much.

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Pryceosh1987 · 19/10/2025 01:21

Have you tried a pacifier?

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