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28BraeMay · 12/10/2025 02:37

Hi
Never thought I’d come on asking for ideas but after scouring the internet every night for who knows how long I’m going to see if anyone has ideas.

My 19 month old has slept through once or twice (generally when there is a bug brewing).
Goes to sleep between 19:00-20:00 depending on last nap and starts the day between 05:30-06.30. If early we will lie with her and try our hardest to get it slightly later or makes the day very hard. On one nap that varies 1-2hours depending again what we’re doing.
She is in a floor bed as up untill about 16 months was rocked to sleep (97th centile) so was getting very difficult as I was heavily pregnant.
Will fall asleep with us lying next to her or have sat next to the bed whilst she falls asleep.
We both have shift patterned job so do nights and days depending on rota. MIL stays to watch when we’re working.

however I’m off on may leave as baby2 now 2 months old. So understandably baby1 is wagging me for settling which is fine not a problem.

However it seems every night between 01:30-02:00 she wakes no rhyme or reason to why doesn’t need milk , has never taken a dummy , doesn’t need changed , isn’t cold. I just don’t know how to break it.

Will go back to sleep if I sit at edge of bed but then proceeds to waken every 10-15 minutes after that untill I eventually cave at 0400ish and go in.
Baby 2 is now bottle fed was BF till 7 weeks so dad can do bottle if not at work if he wakes.
But if baby 2 is needing fed during this wakes ups she won’t come into my bed to settle wants to stay in hers but obviously I’m unable to feed baby and put him safely back down if I’m in hers.

any ideas?

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treatmentyu · 13/10/2025 10:00

You need to address the root problem. Try to keep nap times and duration as consistent as possible, regardless of who is looking after your baby. A 1.5–2 hour nap around midday is usually ideal for this age. Since your baby is used to you sitting or lying next to him until he falls asleep, he needs the same conditions to connect sleep cycles through the night. Change your bedtime routine so that you leave the room before he falls asleep. This is called Presence Dimming. Try sitting further away, then out the door, and finally leaving before he falls asleep completely. He needs to learn to sleep independently.
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28BraeMay · 13/10/2025 20:25

treatmentyu · 13/10/2025 10:00

You need to address the root problem. Try to keep nap times and duration as consistent as possible, regardless of who is looking after your baby. A 1.5–2 hour nap around midday is usually ideal for this age. Since your baby is used to you sitting or lying next to him until he falls asleep, he needs the same conditions to connect sleep cycles through the night. Change your bedtime routine so that you leave the room before he falls asleep. This is called Presence Dimming. Try sitting further away, then out the door, and finally leaving before he falls asleep completely. He needs to learn to sleep independently.
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Thank you we will it a go ❤️

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