Newborn screams through night with trapped wind.

[Summersun91]

Since night 2 my baby screams, wriggles, grunts with trapped wind all night long. She’s now 2 weeks old and it’s the same every night. She is EBF. My husband and I are sleeping in shifts to try and comfort her whilst the other sleeps, but he is back at work soon so I’m worried how we will cope.
She sleeps fine during the day.
At night we even struggle to get her comfortable when sleeping on us, so the cot is out of the question and I can’t see how co-sleeping could work either since she still can’t sleep on us.
We also have another DS who is 2 and is up at 6am so we both have to be up then.
We’ve tried bicycle legs and massage. Sometimes they help but even when she releases wind it only relieves her for a few mins before she starts screaming again.
I’m going to get some Infacol but I think I’ll struggle with that for every feed as often I put her on the boob quickly to stop her crying, and she falls asleep on it after 5min so I end up feeding her about 10x per night during my shifts.

Midwives and HV just say it’s normal but that’s not helping me to cope.

Any suggestions of anything I could try?

Thanks

Seconding the advice to look at dairy. My dd didn’t have bad stools etc but had a serious milk allergy which was only evident when I tried her on a bottle and she vomited and came out in hives. Had exactly same symptoms as yours . Health visitor was useless just said all babies cry! Me giving up dairy didn’t help either (she also had a soya intolerance!). Just prescription milk.

i haven't read the replies so apologies if I'm repeating but I would:

ensure she burps after every feed (there's an attitude / myth that EBF babies don't need this but they do!)

if you can, get a lactation specialist to come and visit and check for tongue tie - midwives will check when they discharge them but it's not thorough (no shade to them at all, some tongue ties are what they call "hidden") - my 3 day old ended up in hospital because of an undiscovered tongue tie!

cut out dairy but this will take two weeks to leave your system - my now 4.5yo had an undiagnosed dairy allergy and I wish I knew to do this. Dairy allergies are super common and if your baby has one they will likely outgrow it

continue with bicycle legs, and also massage warm
water into her lower back to help with trapped gas

Probiotics

Oh thanks, this seems like a manageable thing to try!

Oh that’s interesting. I don’t know what my let down is like though unfortunately, I can’t feel anything!
I do have a Hakka which I think is similar to your link though. I’ve not used it this time. One side of me does leak though and the other doesn’t so it’s possible that has a stronger let down.

Thanks to all those who replied with suggestions. Unfortunately things have got even worse in the last 5 days. She now cries pretty much the whole time when she’s awake, and she won’t be put down at all now on her back day or night so zero chance of anything but sleeping in shifts at night. And means I can’t nap when she naps during the day to catch up on sleep. And the night time screaming wakes the other one up when we try to sleep.

Ive been to the GP and been using infant Gaviscon for the past 5 days but it’s made no difference. I’ve been dairy free for 2 days. The GP told me I’d have to do both for 4 weeks before they’d consider doing anything else. She said it sounds more like silent reflux but to go dairy free just in case. But I don’t think I can last 4 weeks in this state. Would you go back in 2 weeks? Surely that should be enough to know the Gaviscon doesn’t work?

I also have an appointment with a private lactation consultant next week who amongst other things will assess for tongue tie.

Oh I really feel your pain, it's exhausting, is there any family that would be willing to come over for baby cuddles for a couple of hours so you can grab some sleep? Is DH able to help in the night? When I cut out dairy I cut out soya too on the advice of the hospital and I saw a noticeable difference in 7 days and it continued to improve.

My lo took ages to wind properly - about three quarters the length of his feed. I used to just walk up and down the landing with him on my chest, gently rubbing his back. I could tell by the feel of his legs when it was all up - they would go floppy. But if they were stiff at all, he’d be crying within a few minutes of going down.

Dc2 was a dream who barely needed winding at all - they can be so different!

Oof yeah my baby was the same. She was tongue tied so it made her reflux and gas pain horrendous. She had her tongue tie cut at 5 weeks and it helped.
I also went not only dairy free, but I stopped having any citrus, caffeine (I was avoiding coffee anyway but stopped having any chocolate too) and bananas. Over time I gradually reintroduced those things to see if anything made a difference. Not going to lie it was bloomin horrendous. My husband left me at 3 months pregnant so even though my mum helped a lot I was doing nights alone and breastfeeding. I was getting maybe 3-4 hours of broken sleep a day for quite a while.
Will your baby take a pacifier/dummy? It helped my little girl quite a bit. She was on the infant gaviscon too, though be warned it can make them constipated 🫣 I tried infacol etc but it didn’t really help us
my girl is now 7 months and still spits up a bit but nowhere like she was at all (she wanted to wean a bit early too)
I hope the private lactation consultant helps, I also went to a breastfeeding group locally called baby umbrella which helped a lot and they had lactation consultants there.
my health visitor also helped refer us to the infant feeding team (nhs), have you spoken to them?
is baby putting on weight ok?
oh and we did a baby massage course which was provided by the local council under family hubs which helped me to work some of her lower gas out

Are you sure it's wind?
Was the birth traumatic? Could she be in pain from something else and need osteopath/craniosacral therapist?
Also, sometimes they feed because it momentarily helps with wind pain not because they're hungry and obviously this makes it worse then..