when is it really SAFE to put baby in own room?

[vannah]

I know the SID website states 6 months but Im sure I read somewhere it was a year...

I also remember that my first child choked on vomit when he was about 1 and I thought at the time how lucky we were that he was still in a bed next to us

when would you feel truly happy about moving your child if you are paranoid like me?
By the way this is with regards to my second child who is 6 months, my eldest is 2.5yrs and still with us next to our bed!

thanks

I put mine in their own room at 3 months. But I'm that way inclined!

Sounds like you won't be happy until your baby is a lot older.

I wanted my room and my nights back....

My DS went in his own room at about 7 months. He had outgrown his crib and couldn't fit a cot in our room.

By then I was a bit like Maidamiss, I wanted my room back.

The German guidance is a year. Tbh I don't feel I would feel happy with it before that.

ds1 was in with us until he was 2.11 (for the last 7 months of that with ds2 as well) - we lived in a 1-bed flat until he was nearly 2, and after that we didn't want to turf him out close to (either side of) ds2's birth.

I can't see ds2 moving into the children's room until at least 1 - but he is 8 months and we are cosleeping. He signalises his need for closeness while sleeping, which is physiologically and evolutionarily actually very reasonable.

I'd love to co-sleep but I can't as I am terrified I'll roll over. My HV made it sound worse than giving DS whiskey(we were talking about an old lady trying to buy him a bottle as he was crying in the shop)

thanks for these replies all.
berolina that's interesting that its a year in germany - thankyou.

What Dr Sears says about bf mothers being responsive to the baby even in sleep is true IMO and E. I have never really felt frightened I would roll on him. I wake continually in the night, but it is never disturbing waking iykwim. He needs latching on every now and again, but I genuinely have no idea how often he feeds at night (no period yet possibly means a fair bit). If you pay attention to all the caveats about a safe bed environment, not co-sleeping while drunk/drugged etc., and possibly avoiding it for the first couple of months (depending on how you feel about that - many do it from day 1 - we did it sporadically from the beginning but consciously started around 7 weeks IIRC), there is no reason why it is not safe. I don't know about co-sleeping with a ff baby though.

See DS was FF as I had loads of problems.

Also I don't stay still at all when I'm asleep.

agree with maidamess - you don't sound as though you would be happy at 6 months.

Do what feels right to you - dd has finally got her own bed and room at 3!

Are you going to try bf with this one? Make sure all your support (not forgetting MN, of course ) is in place. AFAIK I don't think the moving around (in normal, sans-baby sleep) is even a problem, as you will be 'aware' of baby.

Dr Sears on sleep safety

A good option for nervous would-be co-sleepers is a bedside cot, so the baby has their own 'space' but you are still close by.

Yes I am the bloody MW and HV were useless last time. Told me that DS wasn't getting enough milk despite me asking for help and eventually I had to give in and FF.

oh it is rubbish, isn't it? So many MNers say similar things - so frustrating. It wasn't far off happening to me with ds1 - fortunately I had clued-up help at the right time.

Anyway, this time never fear - we (more accurately Hunker, Tiktok and co.) are here!