Co sleeping with 2 year old

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Husband and I cosleep with toddler every night. We very much have the mindset of ‘he is only this young once’. We both love collapsing with him and it doesn’t affect our relationship in anyway - we get plenty of alone time. Ds goes to bed around 7pm alone and then we join him whenever we are tired. He does sometimes wake up once or twice but then cuddles into me and goes back to sleep. We all get a decent sleep and are well rested.

Does anyone else still do this or did they do this? Are we creating a sleep issue for the future? I really don’t want him to sleep alone 🥹

Completely normal. Does he have a bed if he’d like one? You could make a floor bed in your room if you have space and see if he wants to go down in that over time. It’s good to give them an option as they get older.

DD went to bed in her own room at about 2.5 but came in with us at some point till she was 4. DS still comes in occasionally at 2.

Sensible parents maximise happy sleep and you’re clearly doing what works for all of you. As I said, you can start to offer him his own space overtime.

@AnneLovesGilbert thank you for your reply. Everyone else I know with kids have had them in their own rooms from a young age so I sometimes do second guess when we do. He has a double floor bed in his room that he used to use for naps when he napped x

Well I didn’t and I personally hate it if either of my kids come into our bed as they fidget or take over the entire duvet (DS4 and DD2) but maybe if I had a cuddly child at night I might feel differently! Carry on if it’s working for you at the moment.

However, mine love their bedrooms with their own toys, beds, duvets and pillows. They like to pretend to read their books in bed and my youngest sings to her teddy every night before falling asleep. It’s not a bad thing for them to sleep alone and it’s good to give them some independence as they get older but you will know when your DS is ready. Only thing to consider is if you are planning on another child, it would be sensible to do the transition sooner rather than later so he doesn’t associate new baby with being pushed out of your bed.

I co slept with my dd until she was 10 years old and absolutely loved it!

Husband and I co sleep with our 4 year old DD.. We have a 14month old DS and take turns between each of them. DS sleeps in his cot, we sleep in double bed next to him & the other parent is in our bed with DD.. The odd night she will sleep in her own room but we love her beside us and everyone gets a good night sleep. I hated sleeping on my own uptill I was 13/14, so I couldn’t force my DD out of my bed. It works for us. You do what you have to do to make everyone feel safe, happy and a good nights sleep x

I co-slept with DS1 until he was three and a half, one night he asked to sleep in his own room and never came back to my bed. I co-slept with DS2 until he was four, then he asked if he could sleep in his own room - there was about two weeks where he flited between my room and his then he just started sleeping in his room. If you enjoy co-sleeping then carry on, your child will decide in their own time.

No you’re absolutely fine. This is (no offence to many parents) the natural way to sleep with babies and young children. My eldest slept from birth with me until she was four then went into her own room no problem. Doing it now with my two year old and not worrying!

Yes we did this with DS1 and at 2 we noved him to his own bed in the same bedroom. When he was sick or scared he would be with us. And then 3 no ths after he turned 3 he was excited for his own room. We turned the spare room into a cosy bedroom for him with a Misty Light, bookshelf with toy drawer, his own large toddler clock and all the bessing he wanted, he wanted car scatter cushions. It took a while and we had many nights that he just ended up with us especially when sick / nightmare but around 3.5 he got the hang of it and nearly 4 he sleeps through the night wakes up infrequently. We qantes him in his own space as DS2 arrived but we still room shared as we didn't 2ant to make him feel like qe replaced him and boot him out. So thwre was overlap by 4 months. Both slept fine rarely wake each other up.

Yep perfectly find. Did it with DC1 until he was 5 and now DC is 1 and still do it. We all get a better nights sleep.

Yes, we co sleep with both our kids ( 2.5 and 6) and have since they were babies.
We have a massive bed, so plenty of room. We love it and generally all sleep very well. I love the cuddles and knowing they are just there.

Ds goes to bed at 7, dd at 8. Dh and I get plenty of time together, so no issue there.

Dd has her own room and bed, so when she wants to sleep in her own bed, it’s just next door.