10mo wakes 1-2 hourly

Peaplant20 · 2025-08-30T16:47:27+00:00

If you had a baby who woke 1-2 hourly when did it stop by itself? Not asking when your baby slept through as that’s not a realistic goal but when did they do, let’s say, 3 wake ups? I’m so tired of so many wake ups as theres been absolutely zero improvement in sleep since he was a newborn and it’s the exact same every night. I think I’d manage more if it was some good and some bad nights. I already co-sleep which makes no difference and I don’t have what it takes to sleep train!!

Springadorable · 30/08/2025 19:30

So I was the same as you - bedshared with both of mine, and they varied between waking every twenty mins (that period nearly broke me) to going 1.5-2 hours max. I just waited for them to get older, and then I night weaned both of them (but continued to bed share) when they were 13 months and within a few weeks they were only waking 1-3 times. My oldest started sleeping through at about 15 months, my youngest was a bit older at about 20 months. But both made big steps without me doing any sleep training or anything like that once they were over a year and I stopped feeding in the night (still breastfed in the day for another year though).

friskery · 30/08/2025 19:43

Once they were going to sleep independently at bedtime it really improved, and again when they were night weaned.

Cornishmumofone · 30/08/2025 20:03

DD woke every 90 minutes-2 hours until she was just over 2. It then got to a more manageable level and since starting school she’s slept through

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Peaplant20 · 30/08/2025 22:36

Cornishmumofone · 30/08/2025 20:03

DD woke every 90 minutes-2 hours until she was just over 2. It then got to a more manageable level and since starting school she’s slept through

Good grief! I’m sorry you had to deal with that it must have been very tough. I’m hoping we don’t have to wait that long!

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ZippyKoala · 30/08/2025 22:48

It is possible at this age that the co-sleeping is making it harder for baby to stay soundly asleep. Would you consider own cot/bed as something to try?

Agree with a PP that a good routine, falling asleep in the evening on their own (which could be considered light sleep training I suppose, so may not be what you want) and limiting overnight feeds will also help.

Nothing wrong with co-sleeping and feeding whenever they wake (if that is what you are doing) of course, so long as baby is getting enough sleep for their age and you are getting enough sleep to be a good parent / functioning human being.

Good luck, hope it gets better soon! x

MrsLizzieDarcy · 30/08/2025 22:49

You do need to sleep train, unless you do you could face years of this. You must be on your knees with exhaustion, and have one very tired and grumpy child whose development must also be affected. I wasn't a strict parent in any way apart from bedtimes and independent sleeping. They were in their own cots in our room until 1 then they went into their own rooms. And if you're breastfeeding at night alongside co sleeping, he just thinks it's a 24/7 buffet. It only takes 2 or 3 nights to break the cycle.

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Peaplant20 · 31/08/2025 12:22

ZippyKoala · 30/08/2025 22:48

It is possible at this age that the co-sleeping is making it harder for baby to stay soundly asleep. Would you consider own cot/bed as something to try?

Agree with a PP that a good routine, falling asleep in the evening on their own (which could be considered light sleep training I suppose, so may not be what you want) and limiting overnight feeds will also help.

Nothing wrong with co-sleeping and feeding whenever they wake (if that is what you are doing) of course, so long as baby is getting enough sleep for their age and you are getting enough sleep to be a good parent / functioning human being.

Good luck, hope it gets better soon! x

good idea but he starts the night off in his own room/ cot and still wakes just as frequently. I bring him into bed when I go to sleep so I don’t have to run up and down the stairs all night!

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Peaplant20 · 31/08/2025 12:23

MrsLizzieDarcy · 30/08/2025 22:49

You do need to sleep train, unless you do you could face years of this. You must be on your knees with exhaustion, and have one very tired and grumpy child whose development must also be affected. I wasn't a strict parent in any way apart from bedtimes and independent sleeping. They were in their own cots in our room until 1 then they went into their own rooms. And if you're breastfeeding at night alongside co sleeping, he just thinks it's a 24/7 buffet. It only takes 2 or 3 nights to break the cycle.

Definitely on my knees however baby is super happy and content in the day weirdly. You’d think he’d be very grumpy! He wakes, feeds and goes straight back to sleep. 🤔

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ZippyKoala · 31/08/2025 12:35

Sounds like he is getting enough sleep but you are not! And that just isn't sustainable :(

Possible things to try if you're not already:

Make sure he has a regular bedtime routine and that feeding is not immediately before sleep e.g. feed, nappy change & pyjamas, stories/lullabies and then down in the cot. Add in some sleep cues that aren't milk if you don't have them already like white noise and a particular good night phrase.
Then (if at all possible) have someone other than you do the wakes when you don't intend to feed. So say you feed at 7pm before bed, decide that there will be no more feeds until maybe 11pm. In that time just settle with white noise / pat /dummy / goodnight phrase. Then first wake after 10pm, you feed but then not again 3pm etc.
Use a video monitor if you can to check you're not jumping up too soon to respond to a noise from the cot. Babies are noisy sleepers! Some noise, even a few cries, can be just them resettling themselves. Try and give it 5-10mins to be sure someone is needed before responding.
Commit to not moving him into your bed. This will help in the long-term even if it means a bit more getting up initially.