15m transitioned to Own room and now won’t sleep

[Daniellareeves]

Any advice welcome, and very much needed lol.

How did people deal with transitioning babies into their own rooms when they don’t self soothe?

My 15 m once amazing sleeper will now wake up 3/4 times screaming in her own room and it’s been 3 weeks, i literally can’t take much more 😅

I resettle by tapping bum and she will go back off but only for 2 hours max then repeat. She’s clearly waking up realising I’m not there and crying. She has a dummy which most of the time is in when I come in the room, other than the dreaded crying out method to self soothe I’m wondering what other options I have because I really can’t do that

Thanks in advance

I honestly coslept till 2 for this reason. DD woke one or twice in the night if she was in her own room but usually slept through if I was in the same bed. I could never do CIO.

The only kind options are to cosleep or to carry on resettling as you are and hopefully eventually she will get used to it. From her POV she is alone in the dark and worried because her parent isn’t there and she’s used to sleeping in the same room.

Do you think I’ve just left it too late because other people who transition their babies are successful or is it because they do the cry out method?

im hoping she will just get used to it but it is very draining !

when your baby was 2 did they just get used to it?

You havent left it too late because I transitioned my 16month old DD2 from cosleeping to own room just recently. Did you go straight from one to the other? We did cosleeping > separate cot in our room > cot in her room. If you've got a travel cot, you could try using that and see if thr interim step helps? We did a couple of weeks at the middle step.

Also, there are lots of sleep options in between pat shush and cry it out. With my eldest, we couldn't cosleep due to her birth weight, so we did something called pick up put down. Does not involve leaving to cry. Have you read up about other methods in case there is something else that works for your family?

Are you sure the own room isn’t a coincidence? Sleep needs usually drop at 15 months and it’s the typical age for the 2->1 nap transition so that can often result in night sleep going a bit haywire even if you haven’t changed your bedroom set up.

If that’s not it though then I would have a look at gradual retreat aka disappearing chair. It is sleep training but probably hits that mid point between shush pat and controlled crying.

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What's the point? Why not just let them sleep with you? They only self-soothe by knowing they are safe and someone's always there. That's how they become able to do it. You can't teach it, that's an oxymoron.

If you hate cosleeping then sure, but most of the time it's just done because it's the norm, but it never works. Sounds a hassle getting up to a screaming child all the time? When they could just be in bed next to you sleeping soundly.

Some babies don’t like being apart from mummy. My DC1 was like this and co sleeping helped us both - he felt safe and I got sleep. It’s not something you can fix with bum patting. You haven’t left it too late - this isn’t caused by something you’ve failed to follow in a book or a sleep consultants suggestion.
my DC2 settled in their own room a lot quicker and easier and it was purely due to their nature. My DC1 just needed me. Let you child need you, they will grow up in a flash and I don’t think you’ll regret being there for them at night.

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So she never co slept she’s always been in her cot 11 hours straight never needed me, we simply just moved cot into her room which she is familiar with and loves. I really am not sure if she’s jn regression, she’s defo teething and weather it is all a mixture of things, I will look into different methods, atm I do the pat bum and I works for 2 hours and then repeat basically

She’s never co slept tho, this is my point, she’s always been in her cot but obviously next to me. It’s just a massive shock from a baby who once slept on their own independently to now not

I really do think it’s a mix of things, regression / sleep needs changing, she has 4 teeth coming through, although she was on 2 naps in our room and slept soundly, she also shows no sign of dropping either nap, she’s more than ready for them when her wake window is coming to an end

Baby sleep isn’t linear. There’s some great advice from Sarah Ockwell Smith on this topic

Hi,

I can’t offer much help but my baby is 15 months, sleep has suddenly just completely changed.
Will no longer sleep any more than 2 hours in her cot in our room. Even when in our bed she wants to be physically touching me constantly mainly pulling at my blummin nipples not even feeding!
I feel like you may just have a coincidence going on that you have moved into own room as possible regression.
My daughter is teething too on and off and clearly very much going through something so I wouldn’t stress to much that it’s about her own room. I don’t know what to advise you to do though as I am at a loss myself!

Hiya, ok so sleep at 15m is awful, I agree I think the timing was off and was defo a mixture of things not just her room because after changing nothing she now sleeps through in her own room!!!!!
honestly longest 3 weeks of my life and I was becoming really depressed because I thought that was it but it was defo teeth and regression and it’s passed and she’s back to normal and in her own room!

keep in there, it’ll get better xxx

This has given me hope thank you!
I’m at such a low point with this hoping it will pass soon.
I can be lay with her in my arms and she still wakes up screaming for me! Takes me so long to calm her down it’s crazy I’m right there as close as can be! So something must be going on bless her!
Thank you for the message back x

She was doing the exact same that’s how I knew it was pain!!!
teeth are so painful, your baby will get through it 💕

Did your baby show any other teething signs ?
she might poke her gum a little but that’s it x