11month old rules the house

[newmum202410]

I am so tired.

my 11month old has been a good sleeper up to a few weeks ago. we have a good night routine- play on sofa - have bath - massage - cuddles - bottle - bed. in bed latest 8pm.

now he's decided he wants to go to bed at 11pm-12am but will only sleep laying next to me.

this has put strain between my husband and I as quite littarly there's no space in our bed for all four us - inculding the dog.

I've tryed sleep training the gentle- I don't think I can listen to the cry it out - I genuinely belivie he wouldn't give in and we have neighbours.

nothing I do seems to work. he is otherwise a happy boy all day. am I doing summit wrong?
this is my first baby. i understand there's a 12month regression. but what shoukd I or could I be doing to improve this as this little sleep is killing me.

For this short period does baby stay down with you until you go to bed is it possible to move the cot back next to your bed so baby knows you are there just to get some sleep. It was something I had to do with my 4. The same when they were a bit older we had a cot mattress on the floor next to our bed they just came in and went straight to sleep. They all go through periods of separation anxiety. We did what ever we had to to get a good night sleep.

What does the rest of his day look like- what time is he up and when are his naps? Any signs that the first molars are cutting or anything else medical going on?

Going suddenly from a happy 8pm bedtime to fighting sleep until around midnight would suggest to me that something is off. Most likely he needs to drop a nap and/or wake up earlier. I’d also try a dose of nurofen at bedtime tonight as a one off to see if that helps, or at the very least rules out being in pain as a cause.

he won't settle unless we are touching...
is it separation anxiety?
he is fine wen dad or nanny has him amd I'm.not there just night time needs me.
I mean he is on the brink of walking - can say 2 words so his little brain must be in overdrive.