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10 month - suddenly refusing to go down at night?

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GinnyAY · 31/07/2025 19:24

So our 10 month old is now refusing to go down to sleep at nighttime without feeding to sleep and a long time cuddling. We sleep trained at 6 months (not what we had wanted but the sleep deprivation was becoming dangerous). She took to it incredibly well and we have had 4 months of mostly brilliant sleep! She is in a two nap schedule and goes down for naps in her crib, mostly without any protest.
But for the last few weeks she has now been having real difficulty going down for nighttimes. Her routine has been the same for months, she has a bottle with me (mum) and then dad takes her to do bath, book and bed. She has always loved the routine but now she will be screaming within a few minutes of being put down. She will not stop until I put her on the boob and cuddle her for about half an hour. If she wakes up at night we have the same thing, she used to be able to be put back down by myself or my husband with a little cuddle but now all hell breaks loose if my husband even steps into the room. She wants me, and NO ONE else.
I guess I’m just wondering if anyone has any suggestions? Is this a regression, separation anxiety, something else? Not sure how to approach it but it’s becoming quite wearing and I really want to help her back to the calm put downs we had before! She’s a very cheerful, happy little girl during the day and loves playing with both of us. I’m not concerned yet, but I’d love any help people have to offer! Thanks x

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Lemniscate8 · 01/08/2025 03:32

She is at the age where prehistoric children would have taken active steps to remain in close contact with a safe defending adult all night. That is what she is doing. Her instincts are warning her not to settle quietly away from you as that makes her vulnerable to predators.

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