9mo not going down for second nap - do we keep trying?!

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9mo went down for his first nap 45 mins later than usual today. The whole house is 26/27 degrees which might have had something to do with it. Also his second front tooth has just finally cut today.

Anyway, his second nap was due at 4:40pm. Here we are 90 mins later and it’s just not happening. He’s normally fed to sleep but he’s just taking one or two gulps then twisting off the boob and trying to sit up in my lap.

What the heck do we do? If I can finally get him down for an hour now then we’re looking at an 11:30pm bedtime?

But equally it’s far too soon for him to have just one nap?

Skip the second nap for today only, and do bedtime routine slightly earlier tonight. Hopefully second nap will happen tomorrow!

I think it's not happening today, just put him to bed a bit early.

He might just about be ready for dropping down to one nap by now, both mine were quite early to do this - around 9-10 months

Thanks all, he eventually dropped off at 7:15 😱 and is still asleep so maybe this is his night time sleep now?! Never slept this early before so who knows what the night will look like now…

He’d been awake for over six hours!

Unusual for 9MO to have a nap due at 4.40pm, I don’t think many babies over 6 months are still napping that close to bedtime. So I’m not surprised at all that they didn’t want. The usual routine would be a nap about 9am for maximum an hour then 2 hours after lunch and no sleep at all after 3pm if you’re aiming for bed about 7. Maybe the whole nap routine needs adjusting now he’s a bit older?

Mine is 10 now, I think at this age sleep gets a bit erratic. Sometimes he does a morning nap, sometimes not, this then affects if/when an afternoon nap happens…we just go with the flow, if he shows no signs of sleepiness we let him be. Worst case it takes a bit longer to get him to sleep in the evening.

We used to do the 2-3-4 routine at about that age.
So, up for 2 hours (say at 7am), then short nap for about 30/40 mins.
Then up for 3 hours then long nap, about 2 hours.
Then up for 4 hours then bath/bed routine.

My dd was down to one nap by 6 months. Life actually got easier when I accepted this and stopped trying.to push her into 2.

Mine is almost 11 months and around the same age she really pushed back against two naps, so we moved to one.

We don’t wake until around 8/8:15! A 9am nap time would mean us getting up far too early 🙈

He slept until 7:20am! (With some drowsy feeds)

4.40 is still a really, really late nap for a 9MO that’s typically up around 8am. You’d probably be looking at the first nap being 10-11 then second nap 2-4 or something along those lines. The jist is the 2-3-4 schedule with those being the increasing wake windows.
But they’re all different. Wake up today at 7.20 isn’t bad so you’re obviously doing something right!

Well, as I said in the OP, he did go down for his first nap 45 mins late. So normally his second nap is due at 4pm or thereabouts.

He tends to follow a 3-4-4 schedule… when we’re not in a heatwave!

He’s done it again..! Should have gone down at 3:50 so we’re 1.5 hours overdue. He’s currently sitting on DH’s lap and ‘horse riding,’ full of beans 😂

Surely he is too young to be going down to one nap?!

DD dropped to one nap super-early. I battled for weeks, trying to get her down for hours at a time only to end up with me stressed and her still wide awake.

Life improved immeasurably when I just accepted that she only wanted one nap her day, and we just moved bedtime bit earlier.

She dropped her naps entirely very early too - by that time I was back at work and she was at nursery, and her key worker went through the exact same battle, so I know it was her just being done with naps, not anything I was doing wrong.

We dropped to one nap at 10 months old and my first son dropped to one nap at about 7 months , it sounds like its time to have a sleep reshuffle !