Anyone have advice on how to get my 8 month old to sleep better? I'm going to go insane.

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Please, any advice!
My son is 8 months, he's breastfed, on demand. I don't have any backup stash for dad to feed him through the night. He is getting worse over time, not better. Since about 2 months he was waking about 2-3 times a night for feeds, now its like every hour. I don't think he is actually hungry, I think he just wants comfort and to be soothed back to sleep which he only gets from my boob, he basically uses it as a dummy. He will not take an actual dummy. He had a tongue tie and a "sensitive palate" for the first few months of his life and so he gagged any time i dummy was offered, now he just flat out refuses them. I'm surviving on about 4hrs sleep a night and I feel like im going insane. He also only naps in about 10-30 minutes intervals during the day so im not even sure he's getting enough sleep himself.
Any suggestions please!!!

I never breastfed so my experience is different but have you tried different brands of soothers? Our child wouldn't take one so I bought one of every brand we had available to us and eventually found one he would take at 7 months!

I ebf and had a great sleeper, until the 8 month regression. It was so bad so I decided to not waste time trying to figure it out, and got a sleep consultant which I'd highly recommend. She gave me a routine and we did gentle sleep training, and suddenly they were having 2 naps and also sleeping through the night for 12 hours within a couple of weeks. Day sleep effects night sleep, so naps are important. My routine was a nap at 9.30am capped at half an hour, then nap 12.30 - 2.30/3.00pm (capped at 2 hours), then bed 7pm - 7am. You can google routines as well as sleep training but I'd recommend getting the sleep consultant as they guide you and tailor to what you need. You need to stick to a strict routine for a couple of weeks, so do it when you are ready to dedicate the effort. Consistency is key! Good luck! Sleep deprivation is a bitch.

As the pp mentioned, babies tend to go through a sleep regression at 8-10 months. I EBF and my baby has not long gone through a sleep regression at 8 months. He was waking every hour. He also doesn’t take a dummy! It was exhausting. My husband would get up with him in the mornings so I could get 1-2 hours extra sleep. I also contact napped with him during the day as he sleeps longer that way and it meant I could snooze too. My baby is now 9 months and is back to waking 1-2 times a night. It will get better.