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ok..DS has slept a total of2 hours since 2 am

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turtle23 · 24/05/2008 13:48

He's 8 weeks and this is getting ridiculous. He's overtired and so am I. Will not sleep. Just lies in cot either screaming or playing. Have tried everything and he's now just a mess and isn't happy unless he's on my shoulder or my boob. Save me!

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scorpio1 · 24/05/2008 13:49

will he not fall deeply asleep at boob and then you can remove him?

talilac · 24/05/2008 13:52

This isn't foolproof but:

Lie baby next to you on bed (safely, ie, no blankets or pillows that can go over his head)

Lie down next to him.

Go to sleep.

I bet he will too.

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turtle23 · 24/05/2008 13:55

Have done both. He sleeps for 2-3 mins then awake again.

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scorpio1 · 24/05/2008 13:56

oh that was my next suggestion. Does he have wind? so for you. Can someone else sit with him whilst you go to bed, they can wake you up if he is starving.

VacantlyPretty · 24/05/2008 13:58

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Collision · 24/05/2008 14:00

Lie down in a dark room and put him on your chest so he can feel your heartbeat

he will struggle for a while and then you will both drift off.

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turtle23 · 24/05/2008 14:01

DH is away for a week and nobody about. Have winded him, he doesn't appear hungry, windy, bored, wet, etc. Is it possible it's a jab reaction? Was 2 days ago. No fever.

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turtle23 · 24/05/2008 14:02

Collision- did that from 2 to 7 and he was no different.

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Collision · 24/05/2008 14:04

why dont you make sure he is fed (again!) and clean and winded and just put him down to cry for a while.

He will be fine and you can make a drink and relax for 10 mins.

He will feel your tension so you need to put him down.

scorpio1 · 24/05/2008 14:06

i think maybe you are allowed calpol for him?

Collision · 24/05/2008 14:07

Now, dont take this the wrong way but I have read your profile and found out you are a first time Mum!!

this is not a problem but when you have had more than one you do learn as you go!

I think your baby is feeling your tension and that you are stressed so you really need to put him down. He will not suffer from wailing for a while.

Babies cry. It is what they do.

If he is clean and fed and winded he is now just tired and you need to let him have some space.

when you have another baby (!) you do have to put them down while you deal with the other one.

Hope you are not offended!

scorpio1 · 24/05/2008 14:07

says here you can

VacantlyPretty · 24/05/2008 14:07

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Collision · 24/05/2008 14:08

Definitely a little Calpol for him too!

scorpio1 · 24/05/2008 14:08

putting him down and leaving him will not hurt him for ten mins, i promise

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turtle23 · 24/05/2008 14:09

He's been crying in his cot for ages now. Will take him on another walk, I guess. Thanks, ladies.

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Collision · 24/05/2008 14:11

just leave him for a little while and make a drink

truly......leave him there

he will be fine and if you go in and disturb him again you will have to start over

go and make a cup of tea

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turtle23 · 24/05/2008 14:14

not offended. Am a first time mum, but( embarassingly as i do know these things) have been a maternity nurse and nanny for 20 years. I have been leaving him for extended periods this morning...it just doesn't seem to do much good. I have watched 4 hours of telly, most of it on my own or with him in bouncy chair/pram/under gym.... Nothing really making him sleep. Am going for a once round the block. Again.

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fymandbean · 24/05/2008 14:16

he needs to sleep on his own....

With DS I used to put him down the check every 15 mins he was ok.....gosh those 15 minutes seem a long time at first but he WILL go to sleep..... I never had him cry more than 30 mins when doing this!

Collision · 24/05/2008 14:23

I was a nanny and maternity nurse for 20 years too before I had my boys and I still did things 'wrong'!

If he picks up on your tension then he wont settle at all (but you know that)

Dark room.

check every few minutes

leave him

he has to sleep if he hasnt slept fo 12 hours! poor little thing

what is his name as there is no info on your profile (or photos!)

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turtle23 · 24/05/2008 14:27

Pascal. Guess I haven't got round to the profile update! I know he needs to sleep...have left him in his cot A LOT this morning...he just doesn't want to sleep. Keep string at the screen. Will get outside again for a change of pace and see if he drops off.

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Collision · 24/05/2008 16:11

am hoping you are now both asleep

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turtle23 · 24/05/2008 16:38

he had 40 mins. sigh.

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Collision · 24/05/2008 16:42

OK.

This is what I did when mine were tiny.

start with a routine at 6pm. Warm bath and soft lighting and soft voice. Into pyjamas and a long feed in the bedroom maybe with music. Give him Calpol at bedtime too. Put him in his cot and let him wail for a while.

dont bring him downstairs again

Make yourself a meal and a glass of wine and have a bath and into clean PJs for yourself.

If baby is still wailing, take him into your bed and let him feed from you while you are asleep.

Tis hard but you will crack it. If he is still bad by Tuesday then take him for a checkup with the dr to make sure he is OK.