Tale as old as time, 19 month old not sleeping through! Advice please!

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So, I've started my moring at 4.15 thanks to ds and he refused to go back to sleep, pur day will be a write off and al his routing will be put the window.

this is his usual routine ( does vary but mainly this is it )

6am - wake
7-7.30 - breakfast
9.30/10am - nap anywhere between 1 to 2 hours. ( I have tried to keep him awake longer but he's shattered and his is quite intense child
11-12-awake
Then if we go out in the pram or stay home no further nap, he won't sleep in the pram or the cot after that first nap, if we go out in the car he will have a nap between 2/3 no later than 3.30
6pm bath
6.30 teeth
6.45 book
7pm bed
Usualy he does down no problem. Sometimes if he only has one hour nap he has go go to sleep earlier around 6.30

He he only has an hour he really struggles to cope, he wants picking up and will not stop crying and throwing tantrums I can't get anything done.

He wakes anywhere between 1 am to 3am foe the dreaded milk I know he shouldn't give him milk at night but in all honestly I can't bring myself to battle with him in the middle of the night and thus is something i need to do now, it is getting harder and harder to get him back to sleep. He has now started not wanting to go back into his cot and only wants to sleep with us.

My issue is he is still in our room in a cot, not ideal but atm it's all we can do. Our other 2 children can't have him in with them because he crys in the night .

I'm feeing over stimulated, knackered and me and dp are snapping at each other and I don't know that to do. He isn't having enough sleep, that much i do know.

He eats well through the day and i don't think it's hunger

Any advice welcome!

I think he's having enough sleep with 12 hours overnight and a two hour nap. The nap is very early, I would try and move that more towards the middle of the day so he isn't napping later/overtired at bedtime.

With the milk, as you know you need to stop that...but all you can do is actually stop it. There isn't really any advice except stop giving him milk in the night. But you know that already.

But it doesn't really look that bad tbh...he goes to bed easily, his normal wake-up time is ok (obviously not this morning!), so the only issue is one wake-up for milk? Does he settle quickly after the milk? Is he bf or is it a bottle?

I was exactly the same with my 18 month old until around a month ago. He had milk 1-2 times in the night but one night I decided I needed to stop and just offered water instead but in the bottle he has milk in. We had a few nights of being upset but then he got over it and accepted the water. For a few weeks he’d still wake up and drink the full bottle of water but gradually started getting later that he’d wake and we’ve finally (touch wood) started sleeping through the night most nights.
another thing I started doing was not getting him to sleep in our bed and I stopped bringing him into our bed when he woke and instead climbed into his cot with him. Not very comfy and he wasn’t happy about it at first but now he takes a lot less time to go back to sleep if he does wake, I think he just accepts it’s still sleep time.