Partner taking over 6 month old bedtime

[Noona86]

I have co-slept with my second who is now 6 months and always fed her to sleep. I am just fed up with the evenings, where she wakes every 10 mins and I’m back and forth upstairs feeding her to sleep again every time she wakes, only for her to wake a few mins later. I then give in and go to bed with her. I’d like to have a bit of an evening to myself. So my partner and I have agreed that he will do bedtime and dissociate feeding to sleep. However, we are on night 3 and she just screams. She does go to sleep eventually but it feels bad hearing her scream even though I know it’s not ‘cruel’ in that she’s not being left alone at any point. Has anyone been through anything similar? Is this a silly approach?

It's only silly if it doesn't allow you the time you want and makes you feel worse.

I went around it a slightly different way. I kept them downstairs with me and fed them when they needed it and took them to bed when I went up. It meant that they had plenry of milk through cluster feeding and had a decent sleep once we went upstairs. If I did get fed up of feeding in the evening DH would take them out for a walk then leave them in the pushchair in the hall where they would happily sleep.

You could also try offering feeds more often during the day? I don’t know how often you’re feeding her now but if it’s say every 3 hours in the day you could try offering every 2.5 hours tomorrow to see if that fills her up a bit more?

It might be nothing to do with calories though, she might just need the reassurance of you being around which is entirely normal, babies are just programmed that way, it’s a funny old trick they’ve developed to ensure they survive

we did this too OP and it took a week for my son to get used to it and accept a bottle.

Yes we had a routine baby was fed then went to bed and then slept then just did after a while, we always stayed in the routing from that point on