I need help, or to know if anyone’s ever gotten out of the other side of this
my children (3 & 1) will not go to sleep for my husband, which means I can be trying to get them to sleep for my entire night.
my 3 year old will do her usual toilet, teeth and story, which she will let my partner do sometimes, but when it comes to the actual sleep part she refuses and he ends up caving and reading more stories and getting stuck in there until I come in and say it’s time for sleep.
the 1 year old has never slept through, to get him to fall asleep every night I have to hold his hand in the cot (don’t tell me this is the problem, I’m aware it’s an issue but you would do the same just to get them to bloody sleep). He will not let my partner put him down, he just screams and screams until I come into the room.
some nights I work until 8pm, their bedtime is 7, when I come home I then have to do bedtime with them both. It just doesn’t feel fair that I’m doing it all every night, but when my husband asks to swap I just say no because I know it’s going to take longer.
he’s not very authoritative with our 3 year old and she practically walks all over him, I tell him this is the issue and when he caves over everything I say this is why she never listens to you.
how on earth do I stop this so I can share this load because it’s becoming too much and I can feel my temper rising everytime they don’t go to sleep straight away and I don’t want to become that parent