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4m old sleep at night

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jen9084 · 18/03/2025 21:25

I just need a bit of advice/opinions on what you would do… I’ll say straight up that I know I am blessed (currently) with a great sleeper, this is purely about me wanting a break in the evenings 🥺

Baby boy (17w) has always been a pretty great sleeper and has slept through since around 8w. His schedule had been to nap on/off throughout the evening until his final bottle at 9/10ish then we’d put him to bed and we’d go to bed then too.

however the last few weeks he’s been falling asleep at 7 and then not waking again. So we had been keeping him with us and just dream feeding at 10ish when we went to bed. But it started to seem silly us holding him all evening so we thought we’d start putting him in his bed with monitor on from 7 when he got sleepy.

However, he seems to HATE this and will wake up screaming after 30ish mins and be a nightmare to settle again. Once we get him back down (usually after his feed), he goes the whole night but obviously this makes evenings SO stressful!

What am I doing wrong? Is it too much of a leap to be putting him down in his bed so much earlier? We’ve tried different light/sound setups, even leaving the lights on and having tv on quietly in background upstairs to mimic downstairs and he just won’t settle. Tonight I’ve gone back to him sleeping on sofa with me and he’s been peacefully snoring away since 7…

Do I persevere or carry on just letting him snooze downstairs with us?

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IdaGlossop · 18/03/2025 22:09

He's still tiny! In his bed, he is separated from the sound and smell of his mum. Could you put an item of your clothing in his cot to see if the scent of you settles him? If not, I'd keep him on the sofa with you for a few more weeks then try him in his cot again.

TheBirdintheCave · 18/03/2025 22:39

Could you put a bassinet in the living room? That’s where my daughter used to sleep 7-11pm until we moved her in with her brother at six months.

whathaveiforgotten · 18/03/2025 22:51

Can you have him sleeping in a Moses basket in the living room with you until you want to go to bed? He’s still very little and it sounds like he’s just not ready to sleep away from you yet which is very normal for his age.

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