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Night weaned but unsettled after 3am

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Melissac88 · 10/03/2025 05:02

We recently stopped feeding our 10 month old at night as I suspected she really didn't need it and it had become pure habit on both sides. She eats well during the day and has 2x 30 min naps.

She's doing well not needing the feed however she will always wake around 3.30 (it has been more or earlier on some nights but she is mostly settled with her dummy at those times and we think teething might be the cause of those wakings). I wouldn't say she really cries but it's a grizzle and she gradually becomes more upset.

she won't settle back down without being picked up after this 3am waking. Her sister is in the bedroom next to her so we do tend to go in quite quickly so as not to disturb her too tho we will always try the dummy / reassuring her first. Most of the time she is instantly asleep again once picked up (I don't think she would if she was hungry?? - one of the reasons I decided to cut out the night feed in the first place is because she wasn't settling after being fed anyway and it didn't seem to be helping her in any way anymore, so I figured it wasnt hunger that was waking her).

Has anyone been through similar?

It's just a series of picking up and putting down and her waking every 20 mins til we get to around 5.30/6. So I'm pretty much awake now from 3am every night til she's eventually up for the day anyway . I can manage with this if she's not been up much beforehand and my husband does get up with her in the morning so I can get one hour more sleep before he leaves for work. but I'm still struggling on the nights of multiple wakings because I know once we get to the 3am one she won't be resettled.

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Rivari · 10/03/2025 09:05

Feeding, to babies, is about comfort and love as much as it is about food. That's why she goes back to sleep when you pick her up because she has received comfort.
I night weaned my first at 18 months and with the benefit of hindsight chose to night wean my youngest at 2 years because they really do need that comfort and closeness in the middle of the night.
10 months is very young to expect them to need absolutely no parental input overnight at all.

notamorningpanda · 10/03/2025 21:04

She might be overtired? Two 30 minute naps sound very little at 10 months!

Sagittarius25 · 14/03/2025 11:39

maybe overtired as two 30 mins naps is very small amount of day sleep for 10 months old. also, maybe getting cold? room temps and body temps naturally dip again around 3am. it's the coldest part of the night. maybe try dressing them slightly warmer. or we have a small oil filled radiator in DS room (out of reach from cot) which ticks on and off throughout the night with the inbuilt thermometer to keep room a constant temp all night

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