9.5 month old just won’t sleep at night

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We’re at an all time low. I feel we’ve tried every avenue and still no luck with 9.5 month old sleeping at night.

We’ve tried:

• soothing but in cot (patting, shhing)
• soothing with a cuddle and putting back down in cot
• soothing, leaving for a few minutes, soothing, repeat
• leaving for 5 min intervals, soothing, 10 min intervals, soothing, repeat
• being present in the room & shhing

Is breastfed on demand.

she was a great newborn with sleep until she got to 4 months, the regression has never went. Some nights she wakes 4 times, others she wakes 7 times. She cannot put herself back to sleep. It comes a time of being up every hour and it hits 4/5am and I bring her in with me as that’s the only way I can get a couple of hours sleep before waking up for my other 2 children’s school time. Ps - we’ve tried co-sleeping and she still wakes 4 times but because of BF I don’t have to get out of bed.

ive tried putting her down semi awake, fast asleep, doesn’t make a difference. Her room is dark, have tried a little night light to see if that helps, doesn’t matter.

routine goes something like this give or take:

7am - awake
8.30am - school run
9am - breakfast (if she doesn’t want it at 7.30)
9.45am - nap 1 (in cot, between 30-1hour)
10.15/30am - awake
11.30/12pm - lunch
1.30pm - nap 2 (in cot, between 1/1.5hours)
2.30/45pm - awake
3.05pm - school pick up
5pm - dinner
5.30pm - bath (every other night)
7pm - bed (should I try 6.30pm bedtime?)

help… a very tired mum that is not thriving and other 2 children are also noticing mummy isn’t really mummy atm!! Zzzzzzzzzzz

Sorry I don’t have any advice as only pregnant with my first but bumping for you

Bump!

Can u try getting baby to sleep lying next to you as a stepping stone? So they have to be lying down but u can do anything that isn’t breastfeeding to get them to sleep. Mine liked pop music then when thats mastered the first time they wake do the same thing and then when thats mastered put them in their cot lying to go to sleep and then first time wake bring into bed/ breast feed then when thats mastered get them back to sleep in cot first time then bring them in with u breast feed whatever u want. My other idea is 10/11 months try if a 1 nap day does the trick as mine did as urs and then went from needing to come into bed at around 4am to sleeping through within days of doing a 1 nap - it had to be a long nap 2 hours ish or whatever is a consolidated nap for your baby - I did have to resettle by rocking pram to begin with

hope it’s helpful

Hey, that sounds tough! Especially with two older DC too! How is she going to sleep at the beginning of the night? Do you have to assist her to fall asleep?