Super super early wakeups

[Murmum]

I feel like I'm always on to ask about sleep, I think I've just become obsessed at trying to get it right, but also because my mood and my relationship is starting to suffer because of it.
I don't need to be told suck it up, that's what parenting is, because it's not helpful.
Little one is 6 months, never great at sleeping or napping but we have got better.
Goes down ok, with a dummy and some gently rocking, putting down very drowsy on the verge of sleep (will scream blue murder if any more awake)
The few weeks has been waking at 2am, or 3am, one night it was 1.30am and is wide awake, eyes bright and wide open!
The only way to get them back over is taking them to our bed - which if they slept I'd actually be happy to do at this point.
But they don't really go to sleep, and come 5am wide awake and ready for the day.
Any advice, desperate as we are literally running on fumes now

Sounds like split nights, which is generally a sign of baby being either overtired or under tired
How much sleep do they have in the day? And how long is the wake windows before bedtime?

Ugh this is so hard. It’s relentless isn’t it. And so hard to be a functioning parent during the day when you’ve been up all night.

Is your baby having a lot of naps during the day?

If not then I don’t think there is a magic solution. I know sleep training books etc make out like it’s possible to “fix” but this doesn’t help because it puts the blame on you and IME isn’t possible to fix, it’s just phases that the baby goes through. Some people have babies who are out like a light 7pm - 7am, but many (most) don’t.

I would stop trying to fix the baby and instead come up with solutions that enable you to get an uninturrupted nights sleep every other night. Take turns getting up with the baby and whoever isn’t on the night shift sleeps in the spare room with ear plus in and a face mask on so they aren’t worked up by the movement in the house. Even if one of you has to get up for work while the other stays at home with the baby - tough. You need to work together to get through this and that means lack of sleep for both.

this is a phase and it will pass. Not particularly helpful to hear it, but keep repeating as a mantra because otherwise you will lose the will lol. When baby wakes, try for 20 mins or so to put back to sleep. If it doesn’t happen in 20 mins then they aren’t ready for it and you are fighting a losing battle. Read a book instead. Lie on the floor and let baby climb on your / play around you until they get tired

I've been flat out reading whatever I can online, and that's what I sort of thought myself, split nights.
I am following the recommended wake windows for their age - 2/2.5 hours, 3 naps a day, usually not more than about 45mins or so, with a bedtime at 7pm.
We do a bath, story time etc before bed, keep the routine the same, white noise, dark room. He did do a few nights where he slept through all night from 7pm till about 7am (about a month ago now) but all of a sudden started doing rhis

He's sleeping a long stretch of about 7 or 8 hours from 7. I think you're putting him to bed too early. Try putting him to bed at 9 and go to bed yourself at the same time. That way you'll at least get 7 hours. I sympathise, it's hard!

I know what you're saying, but he is tired at that time and is ready for bed - between 7pm and 7.30pm and usually, goes down pretty hassle free at that time.