I have a 14 month old who has never been the easiest sleeper. We started bed sharing at around 10 months and initially it had a really positive impact but it now feels like we're back to square one with disturbed nights and I have no more trump cards.
We are currently between one and two naps. A two nap day looks roughly like:
6am: Wake up
10am: Nap for 40 mins to an hour
3pm: Nap for 45 mins max
8pm: Bedtime
A one nap day is roughly:
6am: Wake up
11:30am-12pmish: Nap for up to 2 hours
7:30: Bedtime
Recently baby girl has been struggling to take long naps in the day (on one nap days) and will often resist her second naps on two day naps. I try to follow her lead on what she needs but she is definitely a fomo baby who will power through. One day this week she only slept for 15 minutes the whole day.
When we first started bed sharing she would do longer stretches but we are currently back to almost hourly wake ups with lots of fidgeting, feeding and flailing. It is also a battle to keep her in bed to even 6am and she'll be super restless from 4:30am onwards. She feeds to sleep most of the time unless in the car or pram and won't settle for my partner without lots of tears.
I'm getting really anxious as I'm back to work next month and I currently feel pretty burnt out through being so needed 24/7, no time to myself or with my partner and not getting any restful sleep. I really don't know what to do. When life resumes I won't be able to be here for every bedtime but she gets so distressed with my partner and I'm also really worried about how I'll be able to function at work. I'm starting to think I might need to night wean her so she'll get more comfortable with my partner being involved at night but I also hadn't wanted to do that before she started nursery next month as I don't want her to experience too many upheavals at once. Any tips or ideas greatly appreciated.