PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!

[lilysmummy2007]

My 13mo dd wont sleep in her cot, no matter how hard i try, she has been in with me since birth as did not have a cot plus was breastfed and was easier for me after emcs, now i want to reclaim my bed and she is not having it,screams till she is blue in the face and can hardly breathe what shall i do? driving me crazy!!!!!!

You poor poppet... don't really know what to suggest as she's so little and can't go into her own bed yet.

ds (now 2.5) went into his own bed 2 months ago after spending a year sleeping in my bed as he wouldn't sleep in his cot.
I'm afraid I don't have any better news than that - sometimes they just don't do sleeping in a cot

I usually put on the mobile and give them a nice warm drink in a bottle then back out the room sharpish! by the time the bottles done there usually sleepy and forgot ive gone and the music destracts and lulls them

DD was just the same, after cosleeping (easier to breastfeed etc) it was a nightmare to get her into her own bed. She still sleeps with me a couple of nights a week. For DS it was a breeze. He was happy to move, which actually made me feel bad (twisted logic)

TWR ive tried that, she just doesnt sleep after a bottle as she is quite windy and almost always nees a burp, thanks for the sympaty wabbit and DWP

is the cot in your room lilysmummy2007?

I co slept and breastfed ds until he was 12 months. I will now list what i have tried, to get ds in his own bed:

Breastfed till asleep then put him down in cot in our room, creep out (i even held my breath sometimes incase that woke him!!!) -This meant though that everytime he woke up i had to do the same routine!!!

Next i made his cot into a bed with lots of pillows on floor. I Breastfed until sleepy then stroked his head while laying next to him. - He started falling asleep without having to be fed but everytime he woke up i had to dash upstairs as he was escaping!!

I have now put his cot in his own room, i breastfeed him till he is sleepy then i put him down in cot then stroke head and ssh etc until aseep, if he wakes up he will often be shhed back to sleep over the monitor.

(He still ends up in my bed in the early hours though!)

Loads of people have said to me that cc is the way to go, but personally that is not for me so i got Elizabeth pantley no cry sleep solution, i have only used bits and bobs out of the book but everything o tried worked!

Goodluck - you are not alone!!!!

How long have you been trying to get her in a cot for, just a night or two, or more like weeks?

I did the same with DS and it took probably three or four weeks for him to get the message that he wasn't coming back into our bed (and the neighbours got the message too) but it was a stage and it did pass. I kept the cot next to our bed as I wanted him to know that we were still there.

By the time i had DC's 2 and 3 I was more used to disturbed sleep and so I was able to bring them in to feed them but then put them back in the cot (well most times!).

Its not pleasant (understatement) but it will pass, so just be consistent and persevere. Good luck!

mckenzie it is on my room nowhere else to put it rite now, thanks pinkem, wil give it a go as she still breastfeeds at night and morning,and lbam ive been trying on and of for a couple of months but dp works nights, sleep almost all day so i just give up in order to have a decent night as im up all day, and cant deal with being up all night as well.

dd would never sleep alone at night time or nap time, everytime I put her down she would wake up crying.

I no it is not recommended but I then put her in the cot on her tummy, when she was in a deep sleep.

If she wakes slightly I pat her on the back and say sssh. sometimes I have to pick her up and bf back to sleep again but atleast it gives me a few hours in the evening.

In the morning she is always in my bed. She wakes up to bf at night and I just forget to put her back in the cot...

Good luck