Can 4 month regression pass on it’s own

[Megank1989]

Looking for some reassurance, baby is in the midst of regression and doing all I can to make it easier co sleeping et cetera. I’ve noticed on a few occasions that she’s self settled, which seems like a good sign, but she’ll often wake up under an hour after she’s managed this. We have a solid bedtime routine and a shortened version for naps. Daytime naps are still crap apart from one in the afternoon that she has on me I’m starting to feel a bit desperate and lost like I really don’t know what I’m doing. It feels like it’s a choice between sleep training and basically teaching her that I’m not going to come to her so she just falls asleep out of stress response or I continue to have broken nights and a baby that is harder and harder to put down (she’s not yet managed to get to sleep independently). No judgement for those who have sleep trained, I totally get it, especially after these past few weeks . Given that she has demonstrated self soothing when waking can I just ride this out as she gets used to her new sleep cycle will something just click? In tears after another 10 minute nap where I couldn’t get her down after waking on me so any reassurance is welcome.

Oh OP it is so hard when they are going through a regression but it does pass- do whatever you need to in order to get through it.

My daughter is 10 months old now and I remember the 4 month regression well- it is exhausting but it does pass on its own, it just takes time. I coslept through the regression just so we both got as much sleep as possible and contact/pram naps, whatever helped her get the most rest.

Thank you - did it literally just improve as they settled into the new sleep cycles. I put her down each night so she has a stretch, followed but a potential self settle and then maybe another hour until she’s in with me. I’m placing my hopes on those stretches just getting longer and longer

Yeah it did just improve by itself, I’d love to take credit for it but it wasn’t really anything I did I don’t think I just followed her lead x

DD went back to normal after the regression, I think it lasted about two weeks? Then she woke maybe twice a night for milk until she was weaned around 12mth. No trouble.

DS was fine until the regression, then woke every hour through the night, every night until he was weaned (11mth!). Occasionally he did a two hour stretch.

They're all different. It's tiring in the night but it's amazing what your body can cope with. I did get a lot of wrinkles though, and I'm sure DS is to blame 😂

Also I should add that it may not be related to self settling. Both mine could self settle from birth, but it didn't stop them waking up all the time. Makes life easier undoubtedly, but self settling babies are not necessarily always great sleepers.

It will pass even if you do nothing. It sounds like you’re doing so great though, even if it doesn’t feel like it. It will get easier and you are not creating any bad habits or doing anything to make things worse. You don’t need to ‘know’ how to do anything. They are all so different and things do sort themselves out. We did nothing apart from co-sleep and feed to sleep and the stretches got longer and longer without us doing anything as he grew and developed. Give yourself a break and hope you have support which means you can catch up on some rest.

It also passed by itself for us! I spent a lot of time researching and stressing but in the end he just started doing longer stretches without me changing anything! We co slept and he napped on me but now sleeps in his cot happily night and day. Hope it passes for you soon!

Yes it all passes. Don’t worry about self settling, they do it on their own eventually but not at 4 months. Do whatever you need to do to cope