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22 month old can't sleep without dummy

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NavyQuail · 27/01/2025 14:37

Hoping for some help and advice, please!

My DD 22 months has used a dummy - exclusively for naps and night time - since she was about 3 months old. She has always been exclusively breastfed (and still is) and it was the only way I could get her to fall asleep not attached to me.

She has never been a good sleeper but would nap for 1.5 hours in the day and 8pm-7am at night (with several wakes in between - but that was our normal).

She bit through the dummy during the night 10 days ago so I felt it had to go, because of the risk of choking. I explained it to her and she threw it in the bin herself.

Since then she will not sleep in the day - by the time 2pm rolls around and she has totally missed her nap she is screaming and telling me she wants to sleep but I can't find another way to comfort her.

Once she's back downstairs and playing again she is happy but cannot make it near bedtime without becoming very upset and over-tired. Once asleep at night (still a struggle to get her down) she wakes even more frequently than before.

I feel awful because it was obviously such a huge source of comfort for her but I don't seem to be able to replace it with anything. White noise, audio books, meditation stories, cuddles, back rubs, foot rubs, different lighting, teddies - all of these things she had access to during dummy use so I thought they would serve as consistent sleep associations even without the dummy, but apparently not!

I'm exhausted and, by the end of the day, so is she. Has anyone else had a similar experience? How long could this last in the worst-case scenario? Is there anything I could replace it with that would be safe? Help!

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Devilsmommy · 29/01/2025 14:52

My DS is 28 months old and still has his dummy for naps and sleep only. Lately he has fell asleep a few times without it in so I'm hoping he's transitioning to not having it to sleep anymore. If I was in your situation I'd give her a dummy as it's pretty obvious that it was her comfort for sleeping. She will eventually not need it but she's still so little yet so give it time😊

NavyQuail · 29/01/2025 21:39

Thanks for the reply. I’m so close to giving her one again but I just worry that it will be confusing for her now she’s been 2 weeks without one, and also I would have to take it away as soon as she was asleep because she bit through the last one and I can’t leave her with a dummy in her sleep.

Great to hear your DS has managed a few times without it. I hope the transition goes well : )

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