Would this make sleep training unsuccessful?

[flyingbeet]

I'm sleep training my 6 month old. It was the first night today. She cried 30 minutes and then fell asleep for about 20 minutes. I thought it was done but then she woke up crying a lot again. I tried shush, patting and even leaving the room but after 15 minutes of crying. I thought I should stop sleep training for today. It's been an hour since I put her down. We'll try again tomorrow.
My question is, is this going to send mixed signals to her? Or can I set a limit (1 hour of crying)

I think it's mixed signals, sorry. She's learning that if she wants mummy, she has to cry really hard, rather than learning 'I'm OK to go to sleep by myself'.

All kids are different, but for DD1 any type of 'gentle' sleep training was a disaster. Patting, sushing, sitting near by etc made her hysterical, like she was thinking 'you're right there, why don't you just pick me up'.

Whereas leaving her alone (but going in every 2, then 3, then 4 mins) resulted in far less crying, and sleep in about 20 mins (and then far far easier nights after that).

Different things suit different kids (and parents), but if it's not working try something n else (consistently!)

Can I ask when you went into the room on these check ins what did you physically do? I find mines just gets more upset with a lot of handling and check ins.

@PercyFone sorry meant to tag

Your baby is still very young
i had two abysmal sleepers so i get it but 6 months - they could still be hungry/ teething and rolling so all sorts of reasons why they’re waking
if you really want to train then I wouldn’t leave a baby that age but would do shush pat or similar

Yes if you abandon sleep training partway through a night, you're back to square 1 the next night. Only for it if you really think yum can see it though. We did, but it was quite quick and easy for us. It won't suit every family and child.

You have to commit. Similarly to @PercyFone my baby was very stimulated by our presence and check ins. Once we just left him to cry, he was brilliant. After 2 nights of a few 20 minute crying sessions, we put him down and he would start cooing and babbling to himself and then fall asleep. And then do the same through the night.

I know sleep training stresses babies out but for ours it was very short term and resulted in a happier baby.

However, I knew that he wasn't hungry as he was waking up like clock work at the exact same times every night, suck for 1 minute and go back to sleep. And I made sure I fed him loads in the day.

Yep, you bailed so back to square one sadly

This is horrific to read

Agree

I know lack of sleep is incredibly hard. Really I do. But please look into this and think carefully about whether to continue.

I know, sleep training sounds awful to people who don't feel able to do it but once everyone is sleeping through the night, which happened within 3 days for us, with a maximum of 12 mins crying on night one, it was amazing and and still is. Our baby went from waking every 25 mins to sleeping 11 hours straight. It's been 1.5 years and she's still sleeping all night and generally doing great 👍

An hour! Omg poor baby. Even 10mins is why to much.
Sorry these posts break my heart. I hope she isn't mentally broken in her older years becuase of this. Poor baby.

Why would she be 😂 sleep training doesn't do that. It teaches them it's okay to go to sleep alone. You don't just abandon them. Ours sleeps through every night unless she is teething, ill, or going through a developmental leap in which case we give her extra comfort but always make sure we leave the room just before she goes to sleep and whenever the teething etc has passed, she just goes to sleep alone again and sleeps through again. I have no idea why people think sleep training means you just shut the bedroom door and ignore your child until they are 18 . . . . About 40% of people I know have sleep trained, 20% didn't sleep train but also didn't co sleep and waited it out until the sleeping improved naturally, and the other 40% make snide remarks about us who sleep trained and then go get in bed with their 5 year old telling themselves they will be able to sleep in bed with their partner again one day.