3 month old baby sleep - how do you do it

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Hoping for ideas/ / to understand how others approach baby sleep…
Our 3 month old (ebf) has got into a bit of a routine where he has a feed 6.30pm, 8.30pm and 10.30pm. Between 6.30 and 8.30 he generally has a normal wake window including a nap, then after 8.30 he’s either grumpy/fights sleep or fast asleep; never in between but the sleep has to be on me and he screams the house down if we try and put him down. But at the moment that seems ok, I’m happy to snuggle and keep him on me downstairs. Then he falls asleep straight from the 10.30pm/11pm feed and goes easily in the crib, sleeps until anywhere between 3-5am before another feed then wakes 6-8am.
But 10.30/11pm ‘bedtime’ feels so late, wondering if we should persevere and try and get to a bedtime of 7/8pm somehow, but then I guess that means one of us also goes to bed at the same time (being in same room as baby sleeping until 6 months). So is that what everyone else is tending to do? Or should we carry on as we are since it’s sort of working….but then I wonder how we transition to earlier bedtime and when! Thanks in advance

It's fine. He's three months old, he hasn't got to get up for work in the morning!

And if he does start going to bed earlier have him sleep in the living room, you don't have to go to bed at 7pm.

If it’s working I wouldn’t try to change it. Babies sleep changes so much take what you can get. 4 months is big sleep regression from what I remember so defo just enjoy the sleep just now.

If you choose to go to bed at same time it doesn't mean you have to sleep, I had my DD in the next to me and would just watch tv on my laptop with headphones on so as not to disturb her. Sleep changes all the time though so it will naturally get earlier and earlier, don't worry too much.

What worked for me is allowing contact naps but where I'm reclining/ lying down, then after a few, start having baby lying sort of next to me but cuddling, and then just lying next to me touching a bit, then slowly getting to baby napping lying down by herself.

She still screaches to high heaven when I put her straight down, but genuinely within 20-30 seconds of dummy and stroking her cheek she calms.

Then when she is calm (but not asleep), I step away. She needs to see me to settle, but can't sleep if she can see me as she gets distracted! It's a nice problem to have.

Good luck!

We had the same and it’s been absolutely fine, she’s naturally needed an earlier bedtime as she’s got a bit older. Bedtimes started becoming a thing when she was about 5 or 6 months I think, before that she was doing what your baby is doing. It just became obvious that she was needing a bedtime at some point - they’re only really just getting the hang of night and day I think at his age.

Great thanks everyone!