When do start independent day naps

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Hi, i have a 10 week old son and be currently sleeps on me for his naps through the day.
On a night time i give him his last feed and change at 10pm and then put him into his next to me once he is in a deep sleep.
He sleeps through the night, wakes up once or twice but just for a feed sometimes.
But when should i start putting him down in his next to me for his naps?
When he was smaller he wouldn't settle in his Moses basket through the day but slept in it fine in the night time for some reason so this is why he contact naps though the day.
Any tips?

Wow, he’s doing really well at night! 3 kids here, none would settle in a cot or crib for the first 12 months. They would only sleep on me or when out and about in the pushchair. After trying and failing and getting frustrated, I just went with it in the end. I’d get a drink and snacks and put my feet up with the TV while they napped on me. Talking to friends, it’s really normal for daytime naps to be very short and only longer if they’re on you.

I let both my kids nap on me until they grew out of having a nap, it was a lovely bit of time for me to sit and relax and be made too! I couldn’t just pop a wash on or do a bit of dusting so it forced me to sit which was really good for me.

Dts didn't nap independently unless in the buggy or car until they were 1.

My daughter is 9 months old and still contact naps.

my DS had all naps in the sling on me until about 12 weeks when we started to work on independent naps. started by rocking to sleep and transferring and gradually moved to settling in the cot with hand on chest/shhing until it was less and less input from us and he began to self settle. now a great independent sleeper for naps and night and will put him self to sleep/back to sleep

It was about 9 months for us. I did try from time to time before then without much sucess but it just clicked one day.

I started it early on as wanted to be freed up or nap myself! My DS got into a routine of a mid morning and afternoon nao after a feed....fairly short 45mins to an hour. I would take him upstairs, into his sleep bag, rock him them into his next to me. if you want to start after feed putting him in his next to me. Meghan McKenna is doing this now on her IG although her baby is a little older

We did all naps on me or in sling until 18 months when both DC dropped them. I tried a few times with dd to get her to sleep off me but she was such a Velcro baby it just caused stress. I just walked the dog, cleaned the house etc with her in the sling. At nursery her keyworker held her on a rocking chair.

I tried to put mine down as often as possible. If it didn't work, I'd pick him up and do a contact nap but to be honest, I would have gone mad if all his naps were contact naps.

Mine also slept really well at night weeks 7-11 and then it all went to shit. So I'd work on independen naps now.

The morning nap is always the easiest. I don't know why but all babies nap really well in the morning so I'd start with that.

Whenever he’s happy to do it! If he isn’t then I wouldn’t try to force it because crappy naps could mess with the night sleep, which sounds pretty good, so you definitely wouldn’t want that! If he is happy to be put down than great, start now. Just remember you’re supposed to stay in the same room for all sleeps, although a quick pop to the loo or to make a coffee is fine!

My 2yo still has mainly contact naps! Trying to get him to nap independently in the first few months had zero success and was very stressful, so I just went with it and found I actually loved it once I gave up on the idea of being productive during nap time. Instead I nap with him, get stuff done on my phone, relax - I even have a rule that I’m not allowed to do things around the house when he naps, I must be sedentary or lying down! It forces me to rest a bit. Nowadays I can leave him once he is asleep if I want to and maybe 1 out of 4 times he’ll stay asleep but the rest of the time he wakes after an hour and calls for me so I go back to him for the second half of the nap.

Are you insane! Just put her down.

That’s even worse.

guys they need to learn to sleep elsewhere

my DS1 is still not a great sleeper as he slept on me for too long - I’m talking 4 months.!
And he had reflux.

part of parenting is teaching your children independence slowly. So they learn to eat, sleep, toilet, talk by themselves in the first 2 years.

No thanks. She’s perfectly happy and healthy, she’s only 9 months old, it’s such a short stage in the grand scheme of both of our lives, we’ll continue enjoying our contact naps :)

Why, if it works for her? My DC1 only ever napped for 45 minutes until he was 1, and he would ping awake as soon as I tried to put him down asleep during the day. So we had contact naps as he slept better and I got a bit of a break to have a cup of tea, read etc. His naps got longer once he dropped the morning nap just after age 1 and he would then go down in the cot.

Enjoy those lovely snuggles! I have no regrets about continuing contact naps with mine. When he was ready, the transition to naps in the cot was easy.

Are you still on maternity leave? I’m going back to work at 7 months so having to start good habits now with DD. If you don’t work and are happy to fit around the baby’s this is fine, but for those going back to work in the near future/relying on nursery for child care this is just not sustainable for everyone.

My 15 week old is already showing signs of being fiercely independent, isn’t into cuddles at all and would rather be carried around the room exploring textures! Where she got that from who knows

2?

There is literally no correlation between contact napping for longer and poor sleep long term. That sort of thinking is what all the American Instagram bullshitting "sleep coaches" try to sell.

(Yes, some sleep coaches are necessary and great, but 99% on Instagram seem to be snake oil saleswomen)

Some babies find independent sleep easy, some don't. It's a skill they eventually need to learn, but it's up to you when that is. They'll get there eventually, how many adults do you know who still need rocking to sleep? Although, some people are definitely cuddlier in bed, and I wonder if there is a connection between baby and adult preferences wrt sleep and physical contact?

I am and am going back soon so she will be going to nursery, she has had some settling in sessions and was perfectly fine there, I got lots of advice from them initially regarding her naps and they were the ones who told me to continue with whatever she is happiest with doing at home.

All babies are different, if yours is happy to nap independently and isn’t into cuddles then that’s fine, you can do what works best for you, but my baby is the complete opposite and loves her cuddles- and still settles absolutely fine at nursery & with grandparents. It’s not one size fits all.

Thats interesting about nursery, I thought with ratios and all that they’d be keen to not have to do any one to one time, but great that they are so accommodating!

This is my first and it’s a constant learning experience, think I’m just realising that DD doesn’t like fuss at nap times! I’m doing on the shushing tapping etc to get her to sleep when in reality she seems to like to throw her legs about a bit and then chill out - opposite of all the IG advice!

Mine napped on me until 8 months. She slept well at night and I was not about to upset a good thing when I had one! But at 8 months it was a skill she needed to learn.

How do you do that without them waking immediately upon transfer, oh wise one?