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Ferber method- naps too?

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RockingBaby889 · 12/01/2025 13:16

We have been successfully doing the Ferber method with my 4 (almost 5) month old for 2 nights. He was showing signs of self settling already (he was self settling beautifully until the day he hit 4 months when we hit a horrible regression, but has been randomly self settling here and there too since) and he's super chunky, he's filling up 6-9 months clothes.

It worked surprisingly well at night. 25 mins of crying (some of it was low level moaning rather than horrible cry) the first night, 10 minutes last night.

What do we do about naps? Do we keep rocking him to sleep etc or try Ferber? First nap of the day is easy, he goes down instantly. What about the rest? He tends to really, really fight them. Can I cosleep for one of his naps? We tend to cosleep to get a good midday nap.

Before sleep training, the last 3 weeks he has been waking up every 60-90 minutes, he needed loads of rocking AND the breast, it was horrible. Tried cosleeping at night, didn't work.

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LapinR0se · 12/01/2025 13:21

Glad Ferber is working for you.
Pls be consistent. Your baby will not understand why you rock and cuddle them to sleep in the day but not at night.
I’d advise you to time the naps and feeds well and he will fight the naps less. You need a rock solid routine and consistency, consistency, consistency. Anything else is not fair to the baby.

RockingBaby889 · 12/01/2025 13:57

@LapinR0se I hear you and I'm really struggling with the consistency in the day. Even before Ferber, he would go to bed and wake up around the same time. We got that right.

But in the day it's incredibly hit and miss. Yesterday he took 1.5 hrs for his first nap. Today he only wanted 45 mins. And that throws it all out. Same later, sometimes he goes for a mammoth lunch time nap, sometimes he only wants 45 minutes even if I cosleep with him.

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LapinR0se · 12/01/2025 15:02

You need to wake him from naps, as hard as it is.

typical naps at this age are
9-10 for around 45 mins
12.30-2.30
4.30-5 for around 30-40 mins

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