Please read- 7months darling boy and sleep struggles.

[Gt1986]

Hi all!

I'm in a bit of a situation at the moment. My son is 7 months old and he is not sleeping well at all. He falls asleep ok, but won't stay asleep and resettling him is hard or impossible.

I always said I would never bedshare but starting mid December we have started to do this, sporadically at first but more so recently- more on that later.

He has been mega teething, his 1st tooth cut bang on 6 months and his 5th cut the other day so number 6 will quickly follow (that'll be 6 teeth in 6/7 weeks). Nights have been disturbed due to that and that's where the bringing him to bed with me started as he wouldn't settle and would be up screaming bless him.

We tried to move him to his own room end of December but he has never slept a full night in there. He got a cough around this time and still teething and when he wakes he won't resettle or if he falls asleep in arms he wakes whilst being put down and cries. We abandoned this as it was felt not the right time due to illness and teething so back in the N2ME.

I will add here we also tried to start sleep training, the Ferber method- our adaptation of intervals of 2/3/5 mins. This works on getting him to sleep but not on the wake ups/resettles. We tried to change it to picking him up and rocking him but that worked once and not again that night.
He now has another virus on top of the cough so has a full on cold and cough, I'm having him in bed with me to get some sleep but he isn't settling easily in there either.

He has also started nursery but has been off after 1.5 days due to the virus.

My intrusive thoughts are telling me I'm failing or weak by letting him in bed with me, and I'm not trying hard enough to keep him in his own space.

Can people please give my head a wobble if what im going through is 1 normal, and 2 OK.
I think we are putting too much pressure on when the little man has so much going on but irrationally thinking it's all a problem along with above intrusive thoughts 😬

my partner wahts to look at a gentle sleep coach as we are both back at work now!

I just want to end with I absolutely adore my son, he is the best boy ever. We are just in the trenches atm ❤️

I didn’t plan to co sleep with DC1 but did from 8 weeks and realised it was a dream compared to getting up all the time. Kindly don’t be surprised if your 7 month yo doesn’t sleep through the night in the nursery, it’s not something all babies do even though tv would have you believe it. Or other mums with less challenging babies

DC1 co slept til 15 months and didn’t sleep through until almost 2. Now he’s a great sleeper.

DC2 co slept on and off until 9 months and started sleeping through just after a year old. Now a fantastic sleeper unless poorly.

you don’t have to sleep train (I tried once or twice and realised it was not right for my babies it made them more upset and less sleepy than before!!) you can just soothe them and wait for them to sleep better - it will come!!

Thanks! Social media bollocks doesn't help either tbf! We have just put him down for a nap in his cot,(have been doing this for a couple of weeks) and went straight in when he spat his dummy out and popped another in and calmly shushed him, did this once more and he's gone to sleep. I think ferber makes him cry himself awake!