Feeling really torn and upset about this but ds1 keeps coming into our bed every night. Same sort of time every night it’s just become habit I think. He doesn’t sleep he talks and asks for stories and fidgets and it’s really affecting our sleep. It’s really affecting my OH more than me he struggles to get any sleep at all.
We want him to be able to come to us when he needs us, don’t want him to feel like we aren’t there for him.. and when OH works away i have allowed him in the bed, no problems no fidgeting just settled lovely.
so a lot of emotions at play because he misses his dad terribly when he’s away but we can’t cope with the sleeping back n forth situ anymore.
i put a camp bed down to ease the transition so he can come to our room but must sleep on the cosy new camp bed. He cried in it all night long to the point my husband now thinks it’s cruel but it’s him who doesn’t really want him in our bed ! And DS1 can sense that we aren’t on the same page I’m sure .. Cant cope, feel like a horrible parent. I feel he needs consistency so we really need to give it a longer go before giving up .. any advice please for a sleep deprived mum
ps I know they aren’t small for long I would love to snuggle him every night but in reality that just isn’t the case he wants to talk all night and have juice and have stories. Help