Attempting to sleep train 11mo

[ThatDandyHedgehog]

Hi all.

First time mum here. LO turns 1 next month and his room will finally be ready for him to move into.

He's currently having 2-3 naps in the day and sleeping about 8-10 hours at night.
Only thing, the way we get him to sleep is having him lie next to us in bed, cuddling sometimes, and then we transfer him to his cot. At night, we do the same, but he often wakes after 2-3 hours, falls back to sleep in our bed again, and doesn't want to go back in his cot, so I've been co-sleeping with him as SO works nights.

I've previously tried sleep training him to fall asleep in his cot, but always give up and go back to falling asleep in bed with us. Last time I tried, he ended up getting a chest infection and I didn't want to put him through sleep training whilst I'll and I've not tried him since.

I've been trying the past couple of days doing it during the day, but it results in him crying, and eventually turning into screaming, meaning I give up and go back to our bed. Only thing, this past nap, neighbour started banging on the wall when LO was getting upset, so now I'm worried to try it again as they're not very pleasant people.

I've also read online for guides to help, and one recently saying not to try if they're moving into their own room, so I'm thinking to not bother.

Putting him to sleep in our bed works, he falls asleep within about 5-15 minutes, but I feel like it's not going to help him as he gets older.

Any help would be much appreciated, thanks.

what sort of size are you? I’m 5ft 3 and a size 10 and used to climb into the cot with them - wouldn’t work for everyone but works if you’re small! Other tips I can think of are putting them in the cot when they’re happy in the day not to go to sleep but for a ‘chill time’ when a nap is due, add a book/teddy etc, also it really helped when DH took over all settling for a week, they were more amenable for him!

If you do it you really need to be consistent and stick with it. New room = new routine might be a good idea, you just need to stick with it and it will work eventually.

I'm in the exact same boat! Same age and just won't sleep in the cot! She'll happily sleep on the sofa and bed even if not next to me.

Decided to start sleep training - think it takes a strong will and consistency. I've made half assed attempts before but I feel determined that I'll stick with it this time.
I'm thinking about a controlled crying method - attached the pic of timings to follow.
I'm a bit worried because I've not really been one to let her cry for very long until now, so I'm not sure how I'm going to feel.

Reminding myself that it's not even me that she strongly needs to fall asleep, she's just not used to the cot at this stage - so I'm not depriving her of attention and care, just encouraging her to sleep in a new surrounding!

Hope your chosen method works for you :)