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Trance like state

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Tiredmom27 · 29/12/2024 20:21

I am looking for some advice as I am literally feel like I cannot cope with my babies sleep any longer.
We have the same bedtime routine every day.
Dinner / bath/ story/ bed between 19:00-20:00 but he is rarely asleep until gone 22:30/23:00 by which point I am exhausted and usually at breaking point.
At bedtime he is showing signs of being tired , cuddling blanket etc so I make his bottle and put him in his bag into our room which has the night light on ready.

He almost always starts to fall asleep having bottle but no matter what I do he will not sleep and he ends up in this awful “ trance” of screaming / crying hysterically , his eyes are closed and nothing will comfort him and I mean nothing.
He will won’t respond to my voice , trying to cuddle or comfort him makes it worse.
This will carry on for hours if I let it.
I up having to wake him up to get him out of this state and that requires going to another room usually and turning lights on etc which wakes him up and we start all over again. When he does eventually sleep he will wake up an hour later in this same trance like state. I have slept about 5 hours over 3 days.
I am seriously worried about him and also exceptionally stressed out having to deal with this every night. Does he need to see a doctor ? What am I doing wrong? Has anyone else experienced this?

and don’t ask me about dp, he sits on the sofa with his fingers in his ears but that’s a whole other thread.

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Tiredmom27 · 29/12/2024 20:47

And to add insult to injury his dad has just come in shouting again that is his mother I should learn how to put him to bed without him making all that noise ….

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Rowen32 · 29/12/2024 22:02

What age is he?

Sleepypixxie · 29/12/2024 22:10

So sorry to hear you’re going through this - it sounds intense!

I don’t have any kids so can’t offer advice really, but I know a few of my friends have been in similar situations & were at their wits end. Two of them actually got a baby sleep consultant to come in & help them. I’m not sure how much it was (and didn’t even know such a thing existed) but they both swear by it & now their babies are in a routine & sleeping through the night. It might be something to think about or look into online, but you could always go to your gp just to rule out anything else.

I hope things get better for you soon ❤️

Tiredmom27 · 30/12/2024 08:44

He’s nearly 1.

@Sleepypixxie thank you! Intense is how I would describe it . It’s actually nice to have someone actually say that instead
of just having a go at me. I was up googling sleep consultants last night I have mentioned this to the GP who thought it was just a phase but I’m going to have to go back if it carries on.

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Capricornandproud · 30/12/2024 08:46

Your husband is a total arsehole. Once you crack the sleeping problem, that issue should be next.

Safxxx · 30/12/2024 08:55

What milk is he on? My niece's daughter would not settle either and stomach pains and would cry at night, wouldn't sleep through. She was over the age of 1 when I suggested her to try lactose free milk....and no problem since then her daughter has no stomach aches and sleeps throughout the night. Hopefully you find a solution soon 🙏

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