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Help! Transitioning away from bed sharing

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PixieBoom2 · 26/12/2024 22:45

My ds (2 years old) shared a single bed with me every night. He has his own bed and then I have a single bed in his room (dh snores and I’m a very light sleeper).

We do a bath every night, read a book, then he has a nightlight and white noise on. He then gets on the single bed to settle to sleep then we transfer him. At some point in the night, he will join me, or sometimes he’ll only last till8 and won’t go back into his bed so that’s our evening over.

I don’t think I can keep this up. I’m trying to be child led but I’m worried I’m actually doing him damage and he’ll never be able to soothe himself, both asleep and awake. I also cannot share a single bed anymore, my hips and shoulders are buggered!

Has anyone successfully managed to transition away from bed sharing and if so how? Im trying to avoid buying a double bed to continue bed sharing as we’re trying to save for a house, and me sleeping with dh isn’t an option, although we could take it in turns on the sofa, but not ideal!

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Schoolrefusa · 26/12/2024 22:54

I am in a similar position although in a double bed so less urgent ! I wish I knew the answer although I do know our older two dc got there easily in their own time , I just can't remember how old they were when they felt happy in their own room but it felt ok.
I have made DS's bed as inviting as possible in our room but he still likes being with me so I'm not forcing it too much . But slightly pondering whether I need a canopy or something more exciting than a small toddler bed! He'd love a Thomas bed I think .

could you not get a cheap double as people move house all the time? I got a lovely as new one once that had been in someone's spare room and as good as a new one but very reasonable as they needed it gone

PixieBoom2 · 26/12/2024 23:02

Schoolrefusa · 26/12/2024 22:54

I am in a similar position although in a double bed so less urgent ! I wish I knew the answer although I do know our older two dc got there easily in their own time , I just can't remember how old they were when they felt happy in their own room but it felt ok.
I have made DS's bed as inviting as possible in our room but he still likes being with me so I'm not forcing it too much . But slightly pondering whether I need a canopy or something more exciting than a small toddler bed! He'd love a Thomas bed I think .

could you not get a cheap double as people move house all the time? I got a lovely as new one once that had been in someone's spare room and as good as a new one but very reasonable as they needed it gone

So glad to hear I’m not the only one! Are your older 2 quite independent/can self soothe etc?

I keep an eye out for doubles, the frames are easy to come by but it’s the mattresses I struggle to find in good condition 😫

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