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8mo hates cot after doing 10hr stretches until 6mo

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Slowfeedingbaby · 07/12/2024 12:30

DD2 is 8months. From 4weeks until 6months, she was a great sleeper. I could lay her in the next2me and she would drift off to sleep with some white noise from 11pm until around 8am. Naps have always been contact naps or pram / buggy. She has never accepted the buggy for naps.

At 6months, it all changed. Its not even a case of multiple wake ups - she just will no longer lie down in the cot. We thought it was the regression so just did what we could to get through it - mostly doing shifts overnight to cuddle her to sleep. But on transfers she would wake up so we mostly held her for our own sanity. I give her loads of playtime in there during the day which she is fine with, but as soon as a sleepsack or white noise or any other sleep cue goes on, she just will not accept it.

At 7months she started cosleeping with me out of desperation for a good nights sleep. If she's cosleeping, she will sleep from 9pm-8am but I am desperate to stop because i) I really want to stop breastfeeding (she's having one bf a day, 3 x formula bottles and 3 x meals), and ii) our mattress is a memory foam one which i think isn't the safest for a baby in terms of SIDS risk. I wake up all the through the night worried about SIDS.

With DD1 we did pick up put down sleep training around 9months, but this isn't working with DD2 because she won't even lie in the cot. As soon as you start to lower her, she cries and cries and cries.

I'm contemplating buying a next2me forever and seeing if that makes a difference given she settled in our newborn next2me? Then maybe gently ease her gradually away from our bed and into her own room. But we already have DD1s cotbed, a travel cot, DD2s cot, and I hate the thought the spending money on another cot if it isnt going to work especially as I'm on SMP at the minute.

I'm going back to work at the end of Jan and I desperately need to sort this before then. I think I'm so tired I can't see the wood for the trees anymore so need some outside perspective.

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LittleHangleton · 07/12/2024 16:45

Just take one side off your existing cot.

Slowfeedingbaby · 07/12/2024 19:10

LittleHangleton · 07/12/2024 16:45

Just take one side off your existing cot.

Unfortunately im not sure we can because we have a wooden ledge that runs around the outside of our bed base. So the cot wouldn't be flush? DH is worried that it might be too dangerous even if we shuffled the mattress over in case it sags in the middle.

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BoysNameHelp · 07/12/2024 19:17

I transitioned from cosleeping to sleeping in own room using the next to me forever. Attached to bed, then next to bed but as a cot, then moved into separate room. Highly recommend

Slowfeedingbaby · 07/12/2024 19:23

BoysNameHelp · 07/12/2024 19:17

I transitioned from cosleeping to sleeping in own room using the next to me forever. Attached to bed, then next to bed but as a cot, then moved into separate room. Highly recommend

That's really good to know - thank you. This is what I was thinking might be the process as well.

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