Hello. My toddler (turned 3 last month) has always been the worst sleeper.
As of recently it's getting worse and worse. A typical night for us is
7/7:30pm sleep.
Somewhere between 12-2 wakes up.
Wide awake until 4-6ish.
Sleeps until somewhere between 6-8 and he's up.
He's awake on average 4/5 hours in the middle of the night every night. He dropped his nap a year ago so it's not under tired.
I contacted the health visitor about a year ago who were completely useless tbh.
I'm considering trying again but just can't be bothered if there's no outcome?
He does show a handful of signs of people neurodiverse but mainly when he's tired. Eg, repeating phrases, severe tantrums, sensory seeking like hair pulling- but all of this is so heightened because he is so tired. If (by miracle) he doesn't wake for hours in the night all of these symptoms will subside.
I'm due my second in a couple of weeks and not sure how I can carry on being up in the night like this and it's affecting mine and my partners mental health.
Has anyone dealt with this before?
(Naturally we have tried everything, different bedtimes, supplements, ignoring in the night, porridge before bed etc)
Currently writing this in tears with a wide awake toddler who's been up since 12:30!