9 month old will only have 30 minutes naps and wakes up every 2 hours at night

[Hayxx]

My 9 month old boy will only take short naps unless he's being held and at night I'm up with him every two hours he's been the same since birth, he had a few weeks where he only woke up once or twice at night but now we are back to every couple of hours, it's really exhausting, is this normal?

I really feel for you. Having small babies is hard, especially if they don't give strong sleep cues or take time to settle.

Is it possible that your baby is under tired? How many naps are they having in a day? Do you respond to their cues for sleep?

In all honestly sleep gets better around 18 months. But even then, there are lots of bad days too. Try not to focus on baby sleep and just carry on with your day as normal. If your baby wants to be carried, just carry them whilst you try get things done.

Hope things get better x

It’s like I have written this about my daughter who’s exactly the same age! I’m hoping it’s a regression but I’m at the end of my tether too so I feel your pain 😩

It does pass though bear with as I have a 5 year old who sleeps fairly well (he does co sleep with his dad but will sleep through most nights). However I didn’t want to do that with her I wanted her to sleep independently but it’s proving difficult!

xx

It really is difficult, i know when he's tired from the eye rubs or moodiness that's when I put him down for a nap if he doesn't want to nap he literally fights me. I honestly thought he would be exhausted wanting more sleep by now because he's crawling around and pulling himself up constantly. I don't ok know if it's teething related he's had no teeth come through yet but I have noticed his two bottom ones might be on their way.

@Hayxx how does he get to sleep and what is his routine day to day with naps?

@Hayxx How are things going? I’m going through something similar with my 7 month old

Things are quite bad at the moment he's nearly 10 months and is up every hour or 2 then it takes me at least half hour to get him to sleep in his cot rather than my arms, I'm honestly so sleep deprived he's never slept through, I'm at a loss of what to do.

Would you consider she who must not be named ?

12 month old here. That's pretty normal for me also. Honestly 8-12 months has probably been worse than newborn sleep 😅. Teething, skills, relentless. My 12 mo is currently snoozing in my arms.

I know we have a bad couple weeks then better in cycles so I'm just doing my best to stay calm and roll with it. I breastfeed so we cosleep and when wakes crying latch on and try snooze while he feeds back off.

What is he like when he wakes in the night? Is it instant crying or just rolling around making noise? I ask because if they're fairly happy (ie not crying) there's no harm in letting them be until he falls back asleep. This doesn't instantly improve your sleep because obviously so long as he is awake you'll likely be awake but at least it might lead to more independent sleep! Good luck.

Just dropping in to say I'm in the same boat at the minute, my little girl is 9 months and I'm bloody knackered, I definitely think it's a regression, she's my 4th and I vaguely remember the 9 month sleep regression (I think my brain has blocked most of it out)
But last night I put her in her cot, rather than holding her to sleep, and shushed her and did butt pats, it took longer to settle her but she did have a much more settled night, I think the trick is getting them used to self soothing back to sleep rather than relying on mum/dad for comfort